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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Turkish on November 16, 2013, 12:10:24 AM



Title: I mistakenly got a text from her
Post by: Turkish on November 16, 2013, 12:10:24 AM
I  mistakenly got a  text from her... . meant for her paramour.  not me since it said " I'll be there soon,  Love... ." I  picked up our kids,  Took them home,  bathed and put them to bed.  She was going to the gym... . supposedly.  probably went to his college gym,  but the one by our house. I  freaking  HATE  her.  She came home all sweet and cute as I was reading to my S3 after his bath.  She is so disordered,  she has no idea she sent the text.  reading more of her journal,  she thanked God for me and also for him!  he's doing nothing other than being lover boy.  kids mess everything up.  I'm going to put on the  fake fever this weekend due to the family function,  but Sunday night  I'm going to let her have it and demand she get out after thanksgiving. I  know which buttons to push against her guilt and lack of self image.  the only thing that worries me is triggering her rage.  I'm not personally scared of it,  just with regard to the intending split custody.  She can't afford to get a  decent apartment.  we'll see how it goes.  


Title: Re: I mistakenly got a text from her
Post by: Turkish on November 16, 2013, 12:58:46 AM
I'm calmer now.  She was sweet to me when I  got home ( had to go on an errand).  She even asked me to sit down and watch a  movie with her!   I'm actually going to just show her the  text  Sunday night and see what happens. I  find this all so decimating from a clinical perspective.   see if I  can talk to the multiple identity and see what it says in trying to rationalize things,  then I'll report beck. then I'll let her have it... .  in a " nice" way,  but cold and logical.