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I went back to new member board to reread my intro to gage my Healing. it was on Oct. 21 less than a month ago. There were approximately 200 new member since then. I know this reaches around the world but that seems to be a lot to me. these are just the ones who know about this site. I feel really sorry for the ones who don't know. I sometimes wonder if I did not find out about BPD and hear all your similar stories and get your advice where I wouLd be. Seriously, either still back with him or in a psych ward. I also wonder if mental illness is becoming more of an epidemic today because of the way the world is or are we just more educated now and are just more aware. Thank God for the internet because if I didn't google silent treatments, rage and abrupt break ups I would never have found out. Thank God for this site and for all of you too.

For me, after finding this site indirectly at a friends suggestion that my ex might have Bipolar, what has struck me the most is how far back a lot of the accounts go back on here. Literally years. And then you wonder what happened to a lot of them as they no longer returned here. What become  of them.

I have wondered the same thing ironman. What has happened to them? I have actually been reading post on and off for 2 years in times of need but finally decided I needed to post after last and FINAL discard. I do recognize some names from 2 years back once in a while.

I would recognize names too, I was lurking on here as a guest 1 year ago. And a month+ after my second discard was when I decided to finally post on here. I would like to think that they found their happiness after what they experienced. Their accounts, especially the really long ones, were heartbreaking beyond words. It felt many times I was reading my own experience through their words, the horrifyingly similarity of it all.

sorry if this is TMI: i was seriously considering that myself, enough to have my psychiatrist run down the procedure for admittance. but i know two people who went in, and it was unanimous, don't. it's like prison, i was told.


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while i wouldn't wish this experience on anyone, i am very happy that there are long-time posters here. it shows a sense of care for the unfortunates who come after.

and yes, thank god for all of you too.

I do believe a part of the healing process is in the eventually moving on. After all is that not the ultimate goal for coming here in the first place? To learn and make a semblance of sense of what we have learned from what we had witnessed and experienced in these relationships and to take those lessons to heart and take that knowledge and experience and eventually move on and forward with our lives into something normal and better.

How many of us ask endlessly what doe's this mean from the PD, what doe's that mean. Are they this or are they that. How many of us ask ourselves the same questions? Simple questions such as what is my goal. What is my intention. What do I mean? What do I want and how do I get there?

I am of the opinion that remaining on a site like this good place habitually, and for years, is NOT healthy. It demonstrates obsession and circular thinking and very clear inability to forgive and to let go. A very clear word in the description of this board is "detaching".

In the same way the Personality Disordered become "stuck" in their trauma, so do we, if we permit that.

My intention has been to come back for a time and share my experience strength and hope, because if I can't give it away freely it was never mine to give... .and eventually move on into the future that awaits.

Glad you were able to avoid that. I think once you are in the system it might be hard to shake off. Good if you really need it but I think there is a difference between suffering trauma and having a mental illness. They probably don't differentiate.

Also regarding the amount of members I was also just looking at the views vs. posts. There are a great number of views compared to posts so probably a lot of people out there just reading we don't even know about.  Just like we were.

I agree about the moving on absolutely. Everyone heals at different speeds and have had different experiences. Not good to obsess but can't rush the process either. It's a fine line.

I think some come back as a form of support. There is a lot to be gained to hear from the ones that made it through and let us know what life is like on the other side. I hope to be able to give back and do the same someday. I would not wish on my worst enemy the pain of this. The knowledge and support was a lifesaver.

I agree to an extent with what you say here. Although, I am grateful for the senior members that are here to ask the right questions and help people take their first steps on the road to recovery, and that goes whether we are leaving or staying in a BPD relationship. Obviously a lot more leaving on this board!

I am getting there to the point of nonattachment, but I will stick around for awhile as I think it is helpful for both me and others. Well, I hope so anyhow! Will I be here forever, I don't know because I have no crystal ball to foretell the future. I am pretty sure that I won't be trapped in the same patterns of thought and behavior.

And to go back to the original subject, it is a bit sad how many people end up here. At the same time, there are many people who do not because they also did not put up with BPD behavior.