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Title: Really everyone Sometimes I think I can get more messed up Post by: drv3006 on November 22, 2013, 07:45:25 AM reading all the things that happened to everyone else. I do have compassion for all of us, don't get me wrong. But this entire event in my life and hearing the events of others makes me think, doubt and question my sanity more. I am the one who seems to be forgetting the disease these people have. I noticed in my post that I didn't really talk about the stuff he tried to do. He did DBT for a year has counseling and continues to work on himself. Personally I think he does a horrible job at it, but I end up comparing him to all these other people on here and these people are human beings. Sick. Don't get me wrong, everytime this guy calls me I feel sick. But during all this I have lost compassion for him and others and even on here I find myself, thinking we are bashing the crap out of sick people. Me Included. It is a constant guilt for me. I feel awful and crappy on the inside like I can't think for myself. I don't even know what I am trying to say.
Title: Re: Really everyone Sometimes I think I can get more messed up Post by: Surnia on November 22, 2013, 11:21:51 AM drv
I hear guilt and confusion in your post. When you feel guilty each time he is calling you, it makes sense that you feel no compassion for him. Feeling guilty is often related with "we should do this or that". Sometimes we put ourselves under stress. Perhaps you can explore this a bit more. Lets take this sentence out: Excerpt I feel awful and crappy on the inside like I can't think for myself. If you look at drv3006, what would she need from you to feel better? Title: Re: Really everyone Sometimes I think I can get more messed up Post by: Turkish on November 22, 2013, 12:03:56 PM reading all the things that happened to everyone else. I do have compassion for all of us, don't get me wrong. But this entire event in my life and hearing the events of others makes me think, doubt and question my sanity more. I am the one who seems to be forgetting the disease these people have. I noticed in my post that I didn't really talk about the stuff he tried to do. He did DBT for a year has counseling and continues to work on himself. Personally I think he does a horrible job at it, but I end up comparing him to all these other people on here and these people are human beings. Sick. :)on't get me wrong, everytime this guy calls me I feel sick. But during all this I have lost compassion for him and others and even on here I find myself, thinking we are bashing the crap out of sick people. Me Included. It is a constant guilt for me. I feel awful and crappy on the inside like I can't think for myself. I don't even know what I am trying to say. Hi drv, I certainly share some of the feelings you have said... .mine even admitted (finally!) the other night that she was [mentally] "sick." But then she goes back to the same abusive behavior. I may be in a minority, but I've never bought into the analogy equating physical sickness with mental sickness. I think it's something filtered into our society to make US feel guilty about not sitting there in the corner like the kicked puppy, licking the hand that smacks it, because, after all, the master is "sick" but he still loves us... .It's a form of emotional and societal blackmail. It's FOG. We can support, but we must not throw in the towels of our own hearts and be treated like doormats because "they're sick, they can't help it." Do we have no compassion? Are we monsters? No and no. Quite the opposite. |