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Yesterday after the third suicide attempt finally we have a psychiatrist, but my partner is now spiralling down as the time approaches.  Like a babysitter I am here, waiting, trying to make her see there could be a light at the end of the tunnel.  She sees a torchlight of failure and guilt. I see hope.  Perhaps it is blind faith.  I know we are at another critical point, a point to be listened.  The problem is I don't think I will be listened to, I am worried she will not mention her rages, her running away, the violence towards herself and inanimate objects or the way she is insanely jealous of anyone talking to me. 

Is there any advice about why I can do when the psychiatrist comes? I really could be doing with some.

 *welcome*

I suggest you let the psychiatrist take the lead and just let her talk about whatever she's comfortable with.  Focus on making this a positive experience for her right now, and don't worry too much if she "forgets" to mention some of the behaviors that are troubling. 

This is a marathon, not a sprint.  Give it time and it will all come out eventually. 

Glad to hear there is some treatment getting started.   :)

Thank you. Psychiatrist came and went. Another one today came and went.  Tomorrow another one! Is this normal? I want to let them have the lead. I just don't want to get it wrong.  At least the voices, the 7 suicide attempts and running away have come out.  I think we are at a major turning point as my partner keeps saying she just wants it all to stop, the feelings the lack of control and the voices that keep her so low.  This time could be the change after 31 years of pain and confusion about how others operate. Thank you so much for your support.

Another day of psych assessment. 5 days in total, all consecutive.  Now we have no medication after years of medication.  Is that normal, such intense work? Nothing to show for it. GP great, but hands tied now psych involved.  I had crisis team call to speak to me as I wrote a rather forthright letter about being out of circle. My other half wanted me to write it.  Was that wrong?  Tomorrow, another psych assessment!

Hi, i think the no meds is good for now,i hope everything works out ,you deserve pease so do i.

Hurray, psych team spoke to me! As it is I am the career, the buffer, the excuse, the everything that is to be reviled. But not so right now. I really feel we are getting somewhere. We are in a lull or a change or a crossroads.  I feel re-envigorated.  I could never leave.  Now I want to enjoy the staying.  I can be bombastic , a real pain.  But never for me. Just  as is.  Thank you all.   

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This is so hard for you, but your partner is exactly where she needs to be.  It may take the psychiatrists some time to figure out exactly how best to proceed, but in the meantime, take comfort in knowing she is safe. You mentioned medications, so I am assuming she has been diagnosed with mental illness in the past.  

I hope you will be kept well informed, and that the doctors seek your on-going input, because you are a very important part of your partner's life.  

Right now, you need to take care of yourself.  She is in good hands.  Surround yourself with people who are kind and supportive.  

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