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Title: How do you stop missing their KIDS Post by: Undone123 on December 11, 2013, 01:58:46 PM Ok I know why I am dysregulated and going backwards at the moment!
It's Christmas! I miss her son like mad... . My ex had a 5 year old boy who was the mirror image of me at 5... .Identical starts in life. Same race, estranged father, intelligent, mischievous. I miss him like crazy. We grew very close I feel. It was his birthday in August - and that was a tough time. But Christmas is doing it for me at the minute cos I miss him as well. How do I detach from a child who's a complete innocent? Radical acceptence isn't doing it for me on this one... . Title: Re: How do you stop missing their KIDS Post by: Undone123 on December 11, 2013, 01:59:48 PM Ok I know why I am dysregulated and going backwards at the moment! It's Christmas! I miss her son like mad... . My ex had a 5 year old boy who was the mirror image of me at 5... .Identical starts in life. Same race, estranged father, intelligent, mischievous. I miss him like crazy. We grew very close I feel. It was his birthday in August - and that was a tough time. But Christmas is doing it for me at the minute cos I miss him as well. How do I detach from a child who's a complete innocent? Radical acceptence isn't doing it for me on this one... . Last Christmas we all woke up together he opened his stocking etc. this year Will be hit! Title: Re: How do you stop missing their KIDS Post by: 123Phoebe on December 11, 2013, 04:15:39 PM Aw, Undone123 Nothing about this is easy or pain-free. Missing her son like mad is only natural and the first's are always hard; first monumental events after a significant loss.
Have you given yourself permission, time and space to grieve, I mean deep soul-level grieving? Do you have a strong network of friends to lean on through the holidays? Please keep reaching out for support; we are here for you Title: Re: How do you stop missing their KIDS Post by: Undone123 on December 11, 2013, 04:30:34 PM Aw, Undone123 Nothing about this is easy or pain-free. Missing her son like mad is only natural and the first's are always hard; first monumental events after a significant loss. Have you given yourself permission, time and space to grieve, I mean deep soul-level grieving? Do you have a strong network of friends to lean on through the holidays? Please keep reaching out for support; we are here for you My mother is close... .but my true friends are far away, so the support network is lacking. I have acquaintances but none who know the real pre BPD girlfriend me! I think I may have to go one holiday! I have done a lot of deep soul searching... .it's all i have done. I am yet to break down in tears. That must come at some point... .I don't even know what greiving is? |