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Title: I am not sure if i took one step forward or backwards. Post by: samthewiss on December 16, 2013, 07:25:03 AM I recently divorced by my BPD wife.
I, like most recovering non's was wondering if my exBPD wife thought of me at all. Wondering if she was looking at my facebook or google account. I have a google plus account that automatically stores my camera photos. Keep in mind, I do not have any friends on this account. I use it for photo storage. On friday, i reposted two pictures of my ex. that were already there but old. Just her sitting at the table smiling. On sunday, i got a nasty text message from her saying that i have no right to post a picture of her. I got an email from my therapist. Apparently, she emailed him that "i need help". I got a text message from my Rabbi. He stated that my ex asked for him to talk to me so that i do not post pictures of her. Keep in mind, I have no friends on this account. I did not post her name. The only way she could have known that i re posted the pictures is by actually visiting my googleplus account. Later on sunday, i got a second text stating: "Y now?" I did not respond. What I learn't from this. Poking the tigger will get an angry result My BPD exwife does look at my facebook, google account, My BPD exwife knee jerk reaction is to feel violated and send me a nasty text. Title: Re: I am not sure if i took one step forward or backwards. Post by: Mutt on December 16, 2013, 09:22:11 AM I'm reading a lot of control by proxy from your ex samthewiss.
Title: Re: I am not sure if i took one step forward or backwards. Post by: Waifed on December 16, 2013, 09:25:07 AM Tough situation... .It is very hard when you know you need to move on but you also know they still think about you. Unfortunately its BPD and your only win is to move on. Its easy for me to say but much harder to do but you really need to let it go and stop trying to figure out anything about her current and future life.
I still wonder if the ex ever thinks about me, but I am not willing to do anything to find out. Admittedly it would help me to heal if I knew she thought about me, but it really makes no difference in the grand scheme of things. Title: Re: I am not sure if i took one step forward or backwards. Post by: samthewiss on December 16, 2013, 09:33:25 AM i think you are both correct
thank you Title: Re: I am not sure if i took one step forward or backwards. Post by: Surnia on December 16, 2013, 12:00:43 PM Wow, this is quite a reaction - 2 pics and even your therapist and the Rabbi involved.
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