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Title: KEEP All the ex's papers Long after divorce Post by: crystal on December 18, 2013, 12:51:07 PM A word to the wise... .I am five years post divorce and still have legal dealings with my Ex over child-related stuff. This time its about child support. He has filed to pay NOTHING! And he is unemployed. So we are hiring an "employment expert" and I have been requested to provide all kinds of background info-- basically my Ex's school and employment history, etc. Would have been much easier to do if I had kept more of his old records that he left in the house--old resumes, etc. While I was careful to keep old financial stuff and all our legal stuff, I wish I had kept more of that junk.
Lessons learned: you are never legally done with an ExBPD until children are fully grown and independent. Keep all papers--you never know what you might need. Crystal Title: Re: KEEP All the ex's papers Long after divorce Post by: Turkish on December 18, 2013, 01:05:06 PM A word to the wise... .I am five years post divorce and still have legal dealings with my Ex over child-related stuff. This time its about child support. He has filed to pay NOTHING! And he is unemployed. So we are hiring an "employment expert" and I have been requested to provide all kinds of background info-- basically my Ex's school and employment history, etc. Would have been much easier to do if I had kept more of his old records that he left in the house--old resumes, etc. While I was careful to keep old financial stuff and all our legal stuff, I wish I had kept more of that junk. Lessons learned: you are never legally done with an ExBPD until children are fully grown and independent. Keep all papers--you never know what you might need. Crystal And if this isn't am option, surreptitiously copy or photograph you can before they move out... . Title: Re: KEEP All the ex's papers Long after divorce Post by: marbleloser on December 18, 2013, 02:20:25 PM Exactly! Paper trail,paper trail,paper trail!
and... .keep all of those lovey dovey birthday cards,valentines,and other bs stating how much you're loved and what a great parent you are :D Not that I would do that... . Title: Re: KEEP All the ex's papers Long after divorce Post by: Waddams on December 18, 2013, 02:31:09 PM I keep everything.
Even the brick with her hand writing on it that says "Happy Birthday Daddy" with the date added that she had S9 give me for my birthday a few years ago. Yes, she actually had him give me a brick. When I S9 got home, he was clearly bothered by it a little, so got out some paints, and we decorated it together, which was photographed and documented as well. S9 was happy after making it look cool. |