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I posted recently about suspecting my uBPD BF of cheating... .I still fully believe he is based on things I have seen, he is emotionally withdrawn, etc... .Well yesterday he was "ON" all day-texting me constantly, being sweet, texting me into the night... he was out drinking and stopped to eat. He was texting me about his food, then he texts this:

"You know I would never cheat... no desire. Only one woman for me. I'm such a one woman guy. You are my girl ... .have no tolerance for anyone else... .cranky old man comes out. I have the hottest girl. Never disrespect my girl."

We had not been talking about cheating, etc... (He has no idea I suspect) and there was no reason for this to be brought up-I thought that was very strange?  What was the reasoning he said this?

Flash forward to today-he acted very strange this morning, Texted me ":)o not buy a truck" (We had been talking about getting one and trading my car in. I said "Huh?" He said ":)o not buy a truck" I said "Where did that come from?"  He said  "My phone"... .I said "What is wrong" "What is going on? You are worrying me!"

No response and no contact all day... .I tried texting/calling... nothing.

So we get into the evening and I see him start his Facebook BS that I described in my cheating post... (he is out of town visiting his kids)and I still have yet to hear from him. So I text him and say "What is going on? Why are you not talking to me?"

No response... .

What the heck and what do I do now?

I'm not sure what you should do because his behavior just doesn't make any sense... .any of it.  It's just all so bizarre and out of context and it's like he's just trying really, really hard to keep you on your toes wondering what the heck he's thinking/doing.

As for what to do now, since we're in the same boat it seems, do you want to meet me for a margarita? 

Yes I would... .I might need more than one

I've got a brand-new bottle of Patron and two bottles of mixer, so we're in good shape.

Seriously, just trying to bring some levity to the mix, but you really may want to have a drink.  I think this situation calls for it. 

So can you tell he's on FB and just ignoring you?  If so, that would really tick me off.  I think these guys get some sort of sick pleasure out of disappearing or going off the grid and watching us chase them.  That's the only thing I can figure to explain their stupid behavior, as if they have some sort of control in these situations that they don't have otherwise and they really get off on knowing that they've got us chasing after them and they've got us all worked up.  I don't understand it because it seems ridiculous to me, but apparently this is the disorder of ridiculous. 

So what happens if, say, he doesn't contact you all night tonight, and then you just go dark tomorrow and get on with your life and don't respond to him?  Does he then freak out on you for ignoring him? 

I've always just wondered how this looks for other people.  Like, if my H calls and I'm busy working, on the other line with a client, whatever, and don't answer his call, he plays this stupid game where when I do try to call him back, he won't answer... .for hours.  Or like when he disappears for weeks on ends, he won't take my calls, and in some cases got a new phone so I didn't have the number.  He would call and I wouldn't recognize the number and wouldn't answer.  When I listened to the voice mail and tried to call him back, he refused to pick up again because "I should answer when he calls." 

I'm just wondering if yours is playing some version of this stupid game, too.