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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: nolisan on December 29, 2013, 03:01:54 PM



Title: She's back intown ... with a woman
Post by: nolisan on December 29, 2013, 03:01:54 PM
I shared the other day that I saw the ex back in my small town. Just saw her driving, there was no contact. I hadn't seen her for over a year and didn't enjoy the reminder. I wonder what the heck she was doing intown and was preparing mental for a visit (won't answer the door or phone).

Word travels fast in a small town and I hear that she is staying with a woman who is also a nut case. The ex is "pan-sexual" and an unrecovered love/sex addict.

I'm not a suspicous type but I had vague feelings that the ex was fooling around on me when she would call frequent time outs in the r/s.

Anyway - I hope it is just a holiday visit and she hasn't moved in with this woman. I just really don't relish  the idea of seeing or bumping into her.

I am surprised to see her back. She hated this town and had burnt her bridges (except one I see). In the end I had taken my power back when I told her to get the f... .out - she moved back with her husband 300 miles away. So who knows ... .it's possible he put the run on her too.

Thats enough time spent thinking about her - just needed to spit that out. I'm getting on with my great new life. Thanks for listening.


Title: Re: She's back intown ... with a woman
Post by: santa on December 29, 2013, 06:23:49 PM
There is an article I've read about "the lesbian borderline". Basically it stems from being neglected by their mother at a young age. It's not uncommon. After the way my ex has vilified me and knowing how awful her relationship with her mother is, I won't be the slightest bit surprised for her to show up with a "girlfriend" one day.