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i found this article and it piqued my interest regarding recovery and self-change. there's lots of interesting things in the article but I really enjoyed what a doctor had to say about the role of our subconscious:

“The major problem is that people are aware of their conscious beliefs and behaviors, but not of subconscious beliefs and behaviors. Most people don’t even acknowledge that their subconscious mind is at play, when the fact is that the subconscious mind is a million times more powerful than the conscious mind and that we operate 95 to 99 percent of our lives from subconscious programs.

“Your subconscious beliefs are working either for you or against you, but the truth is that you are not controlling your life, because your subconscious mind supersedes all conscious control. So when you are trying to heal from a conscious level–citing affirmations and telling yourself you’re healthy–there may be an invisible subconscious program that’s sabotaging you.”



Read more www.tunedbody.com/scientists-finally-show-thoughts-can-cause-specific-molecular-changes-genes/

i do feel that the largest part of my recovery is working with subconscious thoughts and beliefs. and for me meditation and visualization have helped tremendously in this aspect, although i haven't been as vigilant as i would like recently. understanding more about our subconscious thoughts and learning ways to adjust these beliefs if feel are key for my self-work. what do you guys think?


and just for fun  :) remember this scene from American Beauty?

www.youtube.com/watch?v=SS06JvtlAc8

lol, represents a lot of 'positive thinking' gone awry  it's blatantly obvious to the audience that her motives are surface and futile.

p.s. not that i'm totally against positive thinking at all, some is cool actually when used correctly...

It explains a lot. Some of the stuff is spot on for me. I have recognized a huge role that my subconscious is playing. I find it to be true that conscious wont prevail. Just being aware is an excellent place to start.

This is what I am dealing with the last couple days.  Realizing that there are some fears to deal with, but not sure where they come from.  It is so amazing how the subconcious can hi-jack a perfectly good resolve!

one thing i'm working on myself is realizing that the root of many of my ruminations now come from a strong desire to "be right" or to explain to other friends/acquaintences how i feel. that lies were told, etc.

i have to kind of take a step back and when i do i can see that the ex isn't even in these thoughts. it's me talking to a mutual friend about the ex. so when i catch myself doing this i try to acknowledge that my subconscious is perhaps over-firing and being protective when it need not, because i'm already safe.

don't know if this makes much sense but lately something i've been working with. trying to 'catch' thoughts, acknowledge (rather than repress) the reasons they occur, then try and have a moment of peace to allow the need for having such a thought escape. i guess what i'm saying is that i'm not trying to "stop my bad thoughts" so much as allow my subconscious to realize it doesn't need to create these thoughts any more since i'm safe.

Trauma bond/stocklhome syndrome

I recognize this in myself. I catch myself doing this since I learned about it. When I became aware I started doing it less. Mostly just so nobody would notice my defect.