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Title: Happy new year Post by: Eric1 on January 01, 2014, 11:38:08 AM Well, I went out with a bang.
Heard from the ex, she found out is been on dates with another girl and went nuts. So let me get this straight, she doesn't want to be with me, but then isn't happy when I start seeing other people? Why should she care? Title: Re: Happy new year Post by: strikeforce on January 01, 2014, 01:58:05 PM They hate it when they see that you are moving on, they don't like the loss of control.
Title: Re: Happy new year Post by: Eric1 on January 02, 2014, 04:50:36 AM I just dont understand. She told me she doesn't want to be with me, so why does it matter if i'm trying to move on.
Title: Re: Happy new year Post by: Eric1 on January 03, 2014, 08:02:40 AM The ex tried to call me at 5am this morning. I knew it was her because it was a withheld number. I called and asked why she rang, she said she's not happy that I've been on dates with a girl who is friends with some of her friends.
She said its in her face etc. I told her it should be no concern as she's with someone and she shouldn't care less about me. Now I don't know what to do. Title: Re: Happy new year Post by: Waifed on January 03, 2014, 08:25:15 AM If you like the girl you are dating or think their is potential keep moving forward. You already know what is going to happen if you try again with your ex. Its so simple yet so freaking complicated!
Title: Re: Happy new year Post by: Eric1 on January 03, 2014, 10:12:49 AM Is it wrong that the new girl I'm dating is friends with some of my ex's friends?
She said she's not happy because I'm rubbing her nose in it. No one has said anything to her and I haven't seen my ex. Title: Re: Happy new year Post by: EdR on January 03, 2014, 10:55:45 AM Is it wrong that the new girl I'm dating is friends with some of my ex's friends? She said she's not happy because I'm rubbing her nose in it. No one has said anything to her and I haven't seen my ex. Depends on the situation, but in your case: no, it does not seem wrong at all. With BPD there is a risk however... she just might try to influence your new girlfriend directly or indirectly. I seem to have a lost a couple of friends that way. :-( (but then... I've chosen not to tell the ugly stuff about her. Although chivalrous and all, it sure doesn't help me) Title: Re: Happy new year Post by: Eric1 on January 03, 2014, 12:25:23 PM She won't have any contact with the girl I've been dating.
I told her that if she's happy & moved on with this bloke that whatever I do shouldn't be any concern to her. However, she left an awnser phone messge whilst she was blocked saying how much she missed me etc, then blamed it on the booze... . As per usual. I admit, neither of us seem to be letting go. Title: Re: Happy new year Post by: xPaintedBlackx on January 03, 2014, 12:29:08 PM She just wants to know that she still "has" you. Please get yourself out of that trap. She wants to know she can have EVERYBODY.
Title: Re: Happy new year Post by: Waifed on January 03, 2014, 12:31:37 PM Eric1
Stop doing things with her in mind. Put yourself first. It is as simple as that. Title: Re: Happy new year Post by: Eric1 on January 03, 2014, 02:33:29 PM I'm doing it for me. I don't understand why she is concerned and unhappy with who I see or date when she said she's happy without me.
Title: Re: Happy new year Post by: EdR on January 03, 2014, 02:37:43 PM I'm doing it for me. I don't understand why she is concerned and unhappy with who I see or date when she said she's happy without me. That question has already been answered. :-) Power and control. |