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For my long backstory, I have a couple of threads on the board that gives a good view of all the craziness I dealt with for three years.


I officially broke things off with my BPDexgf on Sept 21 after she cursed me out for my birthday. I successfully went NC for exactly one month with intermittent texts here and there and a phone conversation or two. Nothing too deep but she did mostly keep the phone conversation limited to updating me on her daughters which I really appreciated. After that, I did not communicate with her again for one more month near the Thanksgiving holidays when she randomly started calling and texting frantically one night which I suspect was only because I went public with my new relationship on FB and she was told about it (her jailed brother is still my FB friend). After I did not answer the phone, she texted like she was just checking to make sure I was ok. I texted back that I was fine and that I was cooking, and she immediately called right back. I did not answer and I have not heard from her since.

My new relationship is amazing and it feels weird but SO GOOD to be with a "normal" person. My new love is someone I have known of for two years but we did not meet until I decided I was absolutely done with my BPDexgf that day in September. We have talked in depth about what I have been through and a few challenges I will face with trust, but from the beginning she began showing me that I have no need to worry with her because everything is so transparent with her - the total opposite of my BPDexgf. I mean EVERYTHING is legit and checks out with this woman but of course I have my moments sometimes where I am wary of things because of the place I am coming from. She is totally understanding of that but I am thankful that those moments are few and far between.

I'm grateful this woman has been brought into my life. Everything is just easy with her and I am looking forward to being healed from my past very soon.

Happy to hear about your healthy and happy new relationship! Looking forward to having one in the future as well!

We love good news too.   :)

I am glad you found your way out and to a new and completely different rs!

Thank you both.

I did go to a few counseling sessions and thought a lot about what I was allowing to happen and what shouldn't have been during those three years of madness. I can tell that she is taking (or has taken) the guy she left me for through the same, so there is a lot of solace in knowing that it wasn't all me and that she's just very, very ill. I feel sorry for her at times, but this is what she chooses to do because it's easy instead of seeking the help that she needs.

I pray for her and I pray for all of you all's strength in realizing that you do no deserve this and once you finally let go, the possibilities are endless. It took a symbolic message (a little red balloon that reads "Let It Go" under it) for me to finally snap out of it and not be recycled.