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1.5.2014

After two weeks of chaos, she is fine again.

She went out three night in arrow and left me with the kids knowing I am really sick. Sat night she went to a party with her parents and did not allow me to use a sitter either... . the next day she acts like nothing happened and suggests going to a movie... .

Both of the kids are sick now.

Yesterday, when I came out of the shower and I asked her about the food I bought the day before, she stated that she fed it to the kids.(that I understand) But she then started being disrespectful again, turned it around, saying there's no intimacy, I responded with facts, she blocked it and diverted... . And started talking about how my mother is interfering and damaging our relationship... . "Who the ef is she?" She was referring to my mother.

That's when I told her I am leaving and choose not to listen to her when she is being disrespectful.

I went to her parents, while I was sitting there, she called her parents to find out if I am there... . (she tells me not to go there because they don't want me there) false.

She text me being disrespectful again(tried to justify herself)then called and asked me what time I am going to be home, I asked her if she needed anything and that I'll be home after I get something to eat and pick up some fruits... And told her again that when she disrespects me and our family, I choose not to listen and leave the house.

Then she tells me about her new rules(we can't be home at the same time. We can only be home at the same time when we go to bed)and the reason she came up with it, because I keep a journal for everything now and she doesn't like that... . She told me not to come home and refused to send all these new rules in an email to me ... .

Oh and now, she tells me that she can walk away from the marriage but she won't because she doesn't want to ruin my life ... . I went back home in a little while

got nothing for you dude, but one of these  . so sad for your situation... .

Dysregulation City. With luck she is dissociating and won't remember the institution of her new rules.

Hi BPDsupport,

I think you are very responsible father and tolerant, but two things striked me

1.

Keeping diary iis not the best idea. I did it jist dor few days and I detonated atomic bomb.

2.

If she doesnt want you at their parents place, dont go.

I think you need your own rules based on understanding her first, and foremost childrens needs of course, then your own needs come last unfortunetly.

Best

Jox