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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: SeekingAdviceinCa on January 10, 2014, 02:38:36 PM



Title: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: SeekingAdviceinCa on January 10, 2014, 02:38:36 PM
Well... . I just learned today that one of the guys my stbxwife had been dating for a month dumped her 2 weeks ago. (She was dating two guys at once) So... . she reported him to the dating site they both used to meetup as "not who he says he is, that he's married and preys on women for one night stands."

All absolutely untrue information about the guy. So if the stbxwife is trying to be vindictive over some guy she slept with for a month... . that, my friends, is just further proof that I don't need this woman in my life any more.  No thanks. I'm better off alone than having to deal with any of that any more.  I'm terrified what she makes up about me.  Simply terrified.

I bet his rejection of her, because she got really invested in him (he was her favorite of the two she was dating), must have really set off her abandonment fears right?

I'm counting my blessings that I am untangling from this horrid mess.


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: Eric1 on January 10, 2014, 02:42:28 PM
How are you finding all this information out?


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: SeekingAdviceinCa on January 10, 2014, 02:44:03 PM
How are you finding all this information out?

Would rather not say but I have no doubts about it that's for sure.


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: Eric1 on January 10, 2014, 02:49:10 PM
Are you logging into her accounts? I'm not judging, but for the sake of your sanity, it would probably be easier to not know what's going on. It doesn't benifit you. It would torture me.


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: free-n-clear on January 10, 2014, 03:04:47 PM
... . that, my friends, is just further proof that I don't need this woman in my life any more.  No thanks.

I'm counting my blessings that I am untangling from this horrid mess.

:) Hi, Seek. Glad to see you're a lot more resolute about this than a few weeks ago. It's a process, that's for sure. Stay strong, brother!  |iiii


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: Kallor74 on January 10, 2014, 03:09:45 PM
Well... . I just learned today that one of the guys my stbxwife had been dating for a month dumped her 2 weeks ago.

Smart guy. He probably avoided a hell of a train wreck.


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: SeekingAdviceinCa on January 10, 2014, 03:48:59 PM
:) Hi, Seek. Glad to see you're a lot more resolute about this than a few weeks ago. It's a process, that's for sure. Stay strong, brother!  |iiii

Thanks  free n clear!  Yeah I'm definitely more resolute. I had a set back earlier this morning. But I'm doing better now after hearing about the above. It's not easy that's for sure.


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: free-n-clear on January 10, 2014, 03:57:01 PM
It's not easy that's for sure.

   A former Aussie Prime Minister once famously said "Life wasn't meant to be easy". It didn't do him any favours, but I think he was right. What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger.


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: SeekingAdviceinCa on January 10, 2014, 03:58:40 PM
It's not easy that's for sure.

   A former Aussie Prime Minister once famously said "Life wasn't meant to be easy". It didn't do him any favours, but I think he was right. What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger.

So true. So true.

I think we've all been tested. Now we just have to see if we can pass the test.


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: partyhat on January 12, 2014, 01:30:13 AM
 and yes the Australian prime minister who made that statement was also a raging narcissist look at his history he wasn't a very nice man at all . But what he did say is very relevant to life


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: partyhat on January 12, 2014, 01:31:27 AM
dude however you are getting your info , is not our concern but I will say this all it is doing is making you sad and hurt. Move forward and let it go ,cheers


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: santa on January 12, 2014, 01:40:45 AM
My approach to this is "Ignorance is bliss". I have no idea whether she's been dating or not since our split. I think it would be harder to know that not to know. Why put yourself through all that if you don't have to?

I'm sure it would upset me to hear any details. I'd rather not know.

Keep your chin up, Seeking. This woman will make your life a living hell if you let her. You've got to focus on you and not her.


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: free-n-clear on January 12, 2014, 01:58:36 AM
what he did say is very relevant to life

   I wasn't endorsing him or his party, partyhat. The current PM isn't the nicest guy on the planet either!


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: arn131arn on January 12, 2014, 02:21:06 AM
what he did say is very relevant to life

   I wasn't endorsing him or his party, partyhat. The current PM isn't the nicest guy on the planet either!

When did George W. take over Australia? :)


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: free-n-clear on January 12, 2014, 02:24:58 AM
When did George W. take over Australia?   :) 

  He didn't have to. He had Little Johnny Howard on a leash!  :)


Title: Re: WOW The hits just keep coming
Post by: partyhat on January 12, 2014, 04:01:08 PM
George w doesnt need to take over this country they already have we are just puppets to the military industrial complex same as the US. We are all  slaves to powers that be that lurk in the background.  NINE ELEVEN a terrorist attack I dont think so ! Inside job. Quite sad. Any way beside the point  dude let her go and focus on you and get well