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Title: How do we become the ones they "trust"? Post by: misssouthernbelle on January 11, 2014, 01:12:00 AM I look at his ex and constantly wonder why he trusted her - who has worse issues than him and physically beat him supposedly - and yet, me, the good woman who would do anything for him and really has feelings for him, is the one to be left feeling rejected while he's looking for a girl to date and barely talking to me... . when I was his priority only a month, or two ago?
What makes pwBPD pick certain people to be there partners? Are there any particular traits or ways in which we can behave? Or, are we totally lost to the fact that we can't be cold and manipulative, which are the partners they seem to thrive with? Title: Re: How do we become the ones they "trust"? Post by: waverider on January 13, 2014, 03:54:33 AM They want to be like you, but they cant. They find it easier to understand cold and calculating as it is closer to their thinking process.
Disordered people often do gravitate towards other disordered people, it makes them less threatened by benchmarks they can't match. It also helps them to stay in the victim/persecutor/ rescuer drama triangle. Ultimately they find it hard to really trust anyone. |