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Title: Mile Marker Post by: Moonie75 on January 12, 2014, 12:18:55 PM I'm four weeks NC today!
Been here before, twice! (slow learner). I walked this time instead of her! What with the holiday season & her attempts at friendly contact instead of usual hate filled bile, it's been the toughest period of NC I've ever been through! Today has been an emotional hell & while I smile at the neighbors I'm on my knees inside. I'd like to thank all those for reading my woes, offering advice & support, and generally displaying understanding of what this experience does. I've exhausted my support network among family & friends as they haven't lived it, don't quite get it! They've heard it all before, only for me to fall on my word & go back! Without the folks of these boards I'd be even worse than I am. So heart felt THANK YOU! Moonie Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: santa on January 12, 2014, 01:02:26 PM 4 weeks is great, man. That's awesome. You did a great job of making it through the holidays.
Keep it going. Just challenge yourself to see how long you can keep doing it. Everyday is progress. Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: Moonie75 on January 12, 2014, 01:18:26 PM Thank you Santa,
Each Sunday I head for making it NC to the next Sunday... . Forever seems to big a prospect/mountain at the moment, but a week is a manageable mound. One day I'll casually realize it's been a while since I thought about 'next Sunday'! Whoop Whoop I'm gonna celebrate big time when that day comes! Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: arn131arn on January 12, 2014, 01:26:39 PM 4 weeks is great Moonie. Mine are on Mondays and tomorrow will be 4 weeks for me, bro.
I am getting stronger, I can feel it. I am no longer obssessing about what position my replacement has her in, yet, I am more focused on me, where I am going in my life, and my son, being the best dad I can be. I feel the most important thing aafter we make this necessary decision, is to follow up with the actions that will make us stronger in the long run. Stay strong, Arn Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: Moonie75 on January 12, 2014, 01:36:10 PM Arn,
Well Done to you on your 4-weeks too my friend. I wouldn't wish this on anyone, and at the same time it's nice to know you're on the same time scale as me. Good Luck mate, Moonie Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: myself on January 12, 2014, 02:12:36 PM Congratulations, to you and to anyone finding their strength.
I'm not even looking at the calendar. It's just Today. So far, so good. And getting better! Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: Waifed on January 12, 2014, 02:18:40 PM Good job Moonie. You are gaining strength and your attitude rocks!
Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: State85 on January 12, 2014, 02:21:40 PM Excellent Moonie... . time heals all, NC makes the process even faster.
Stay strong Moonie! Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: Changingman on January 12, 2014, 06:01:34 PM All the best to you, Moonie. Save your life.
Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: sun seeker on January 12, 2014, 07:10:19 PM Hello my friends
Congrats Arn & Santa 4 weeks is huge guys, keep up the good work. This weekend was rough. Honestly i wanted to break n/c so bad. (I didnt ) i took my sportbike to key west for the day. i needed it cause you cant think about anything except not going down when you ride down the interstate. It was a nice break from my usual daily thoughts. I am so grateful for this board and all of you awesome ppl. My bros wife actually has been researching BPD and what we all have been through. She had an idea of what's up. Everyone else had heard enough from me on this subject. Can't wait til all this is a faded memory. And I can have a healthy r/s. Being alone is not how I wanna spend life. Being alone is just nessisary at the moment. Looking forward to better days! Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: Free2Bee on January 12, 2014, 07:49:16 PM Way to go, Moonie! |iiii I'm inspired by your strength. That couldn't have been easy to get through with the holidays and stuff. I'm one week in, hoping it gets easier with time... .
Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: RecycledNoMore on January 12, 2014, 08:51:14 PM Moonie! Moonie!Moonie!
The crowd goes wild! God save the queen plays in the backround... . Good on you man! Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: Starlight607 on January 13, 2014, 01:46:25 PM Well done Moonie, I am going to use you as my inspiration if that is ok. I broke NC after about 3 weeks! Starting again and determined to follow your example. Santa made the point in other post how it really works and she is right.
Thank you for sharing your success and keep going. I am only four weeks behind you! Lol :) Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: heartandwhole on January 14, 2014, 12:46:19 PM Hey Moonie, you can do this! Every time you make it to Sunday, do something really nice for yourself.
I know how hard it is. Have been able to focus on other things besides your ex for more time this week? Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: Moonie75 on January 14, 2014, 02:08:24 PM Yes I've done more things for me week by week. Had a set back today (that's a story for another thread), but NC remained intact so not a total disaster.
No rules to how the mind deals with NC I'm learning. One day you're up & next day you're down. Then up again. Another, new kind of roller coaster! Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: santa on January 14, 2014, 02:17:26 PM Yes I've done more things for me week by week. Had a set back today (that's a story for another thread), but NC remained intact so not a total disaster. No rules to how the mind deals with NC I'm learning. One day you're up & next day you're down. Then up again. Another, new kind of roller coaster! Gotta grind it out, dude. We didn't come all this way for nothing. Title: Re: Mile Marker Post by: Kallor74 on January 14, 2014, 02:24:21 PM Congrats Moonie! Everyday NC is a victory! Brothers and sisters in arms.
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