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(This is going to be a real stupid thread but anyways, ... . I can sometimes ask real stupid Q's.) In two and a half weeks, ... it has been court ordered for my (ex)wife to get out of the house and allow me to reside there with our two teenagers.


But in my ex-mate's point of view, possession is 9/10th's of the (her) law. As any one who is a non-BPD knows, ... . a BPD person does what ever they want whenever they want... . and seemingly they tend to get away with it. In other words, ... the day will come, ... . and the day will go. But I am a little uneasy about it. Me thinks she will just stay put and ignore the court order by the judge.

As a little aside about Canadian Law (as this is where I live) ... . crooks and bad guys get away with everything. It takes about 25 arrests until the judge actually does more than slap the wrist.

Now getting back on topic (i.e. BPD related stuff), ... . legally she HAS to leave. I do have the right to just call the police and ask them to remove her. Do I meet the police at the door of the house (that I pay already the mortgage as well as all bills on for the last three years whilst she just squatted in... . )... . ?

I really do not want a scene. Should I call the RCMP well in advance to the february 1st deadline and show them them legal documentation and "warn" them about what is about to transpire?

So, ... . please help me if you can... . any advice would be helpful.

(I just do not have any faith in the system)

By the way, ... my teenagers are soo looking forward to getting back into their own home with me. They can so hardly wait to have friends over once again.

My ex has been there for years enjoying drinking whenever she wants, . how much she wants, ...   etc. But for the last little while, ... she has no one around to "control" aka yell at, ... . rage at, ... . throw things at, ... . physically abuse, ... . etc.

Maybe then, ... she will realize what she has lost: 1st her friends, ... then her husband, ... . then her children, ... . then now she is about to the house... . (oh, ...   a little bit of information,... . her family is very, very rich).

I would suggest you find out what the legal process is, a series of "What if... . "  Since you expect noncompliance, then be ready for what the next legal steps is once she is non-compliant.

I'm thinking that once you have legal possession and if she doesn't vacate then the next time she leaves the house then you change the locks immediately and that way she can't get back in without breaking in.  (So you would call the police if she started banging on the door, making a scene or breaks in.)  If the police come, then you can tell the police she can come in only to retrieve her things and they must be present so she doesn't take your property or decide to stage a 'sit in'.  If her things are still there then you can box them up and set them out for her to pick up but beware that getting them from your possession to her possession can also be fraught with many obstacles and surprises, so try your best to do it right.  Take photos of them and the house before handing them over in case she insists you didn't give them to her, if set out for her, make sure she can't claim they were stolen and she never got them, etc.  You get the idea.  Delay, denial, blaming, non-response and being uncooperative are all common weapons.

That day is likely to be potential high conflict, so I'd recommend you quietly record yourself (or you both) if she shows up so she can't successfully claim you did DV or some other poor behavior.  Me... . By the time I was divorced I had 3 recorders since I was so worried my batteries would die or a recorder would fill up.  Years later, I still have them, just in case.