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Title: NC (no contact) is absolutely amazingly wonderful. Post by: ogopogodude on January 15, 2014, 04:34:54 PM For all those wondering if their relationship is "worth it" or not or if they just need a break from the insanity of it all (if their mate is afflicted with BPD) the best test of all is zero contact (and I do mean zero). It has worked wonders for my psyche.
I find that I do not tremble with fear anymore (with the anticipation of seeing my mate after work, or the anticipation of going to a social event with spouse such as an office party, etc). My anxiety level would just go off the charts when I knew that my mate and I were to go to a social function. The worry of having to take my mate home in my arms from too much alcohol intake, or a fight of some sort could --would-- happen, etc. was really quite overwhelming to me. And on the road trip back from a social event with my mate was always a treat: her trying to get out of a moving car (whilst I drove) &/or her kicking and screaming with her feet breaking things all over the dash. Man, ... how could I have put up with that nonsense for so long (about the last three to four years of our 17 year marriage). Healing is a wonderful thing. Title: Re: NC (no contact) is absolutely amazingly wonderful. Post by: Kallor74 on January 15, 2014, 04:53:23 PM Good for you! Yeah NC is pretty awesome. Just stay strong and you will win brother. *)
Title: Re: NC (no contact) is absolutely amazingly wonderful. Post by: santa on January 15, 2014, 10:11:51 PM No contact is pretty great.
I feel a little guilty about it because I'm essentially going no contact with my 18 month old daughter too. This had to be done though. I couldn't keep going like I was. It was just too much emotionally. I had to do something. It's working too. I feel a million times better already. |