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Title: How do I trust that my x hasn't gotten to kids therapist? Post by: Soulsisters on January 16, 2014, 08:48:16 AM It never ends.
It doesn't end with my x. I went with my youngest son to therapy last night. I have always been close with my youngest (15) and last night I was kicked in the ribs. He is so angry with me for leaving. I didn't have a choice. I couldn't breathe at home and I was so frightened of my x. I never thought that I would lose my kids, my community, my home, my therapists, own mother, and more. I never would have thought that my x would hurt my sons to hurt me. My youngest refuses to have any contact with me whatsoever for 30 days and then will talk about if he gets to disown me. He is angry that I didn't fight back. After 20 years of being chipped away at, I was broken down scared. He remembers him screaming at me while I hover in a corner. It was abuse. Now I lose my kids because he slanders me at every corner. The therapist is giving him the 30 days and I can't say a thing to him. I am sure he has gotten to her as well. I know he did. Omg. If I lose my sons forever along with the rest, then what. She won't let me talk poorly about their father even though I now an ogre. W Title: Re: How do I trust that my x hasn't gotten to kids therapist? Post by: NorthernGirl on January 16, 2014, 01:41:02 PM Some counselors see through this stuff quickly, others do not. Keep telling your side of the story to the therapist, in a calm and factual way if you can. In my DH's case, his ex (UBPD) tried to quickly establish with their sons' counselors that she was the best mom, and DH was horrible. Some counselors bought the story initially but then his ex's stories started to crack. Others could tell by the way his ex was telling the stories from the very start that something wasn't quite ringing true. They often still gave her the benefit of the doubt -- and sometimes it seemed like they were helping push her agenda -- but all (there have been about 5) eventually saw through UBPD's stories.
Hang in there. Keep to the facts. Have you read Divorce Poison? |