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Being in a relationship with a person with BPD has made me pay more attention to detail on many different things and on many different levels.

One thing I noticed is how certain songs and certain lyrics affect me these days. Songs I've heard a million times and now they take on a completely new meaning for me or I finally understand what they are about/relate to them. Many, many different songs... . and so many of them I'm like, wait a second... . That sounds like me, that sounds like my relationship, that sounds like my boyfriend, that sounds like someone with BPD, that sounds like they met someone who has BPD... .

Maybe I'm over-analyzing, or maybe it's that I just relate to things differently now.

Has this happened to anyone else? What song(s) has changed to you? What song(s) do you relate to the most?

Yeah, so working out tonight I had "Smashing Pumpkins" on my ipod. "Safe" music, or so I thought. This one came on and got me a bit emotional during the workout:

"This Time"

www.youtube.com/watch?v=nB20yNfLH1g

This time I need to know

I really must be told

If it's over

It's up to you to know

The things you want to hold

Are in pieces

Crashing down

Crashing down again

Crashing down

Crashing down my friends

I've got to move it on

I've got to sing my song

While I still can

Dispatch the last alarms

Hand out the last few charms

There's no surprises

Only love

Only love can win

Crashing down

Crashing down again

Only love

Yeah only love will win

Crashing down

Crashing down again

This time I need to know

I really must be told

That it's over

I've lived my life alone

My every step foretold

To never linger

And yet it haunts me so

What are we letting go

Our spell is broken

Crashing down

Crashing down my friends

Crashing down

Crashing down again

Only love

Yeah only love will

Be enough

Yeah only love will win

For every chemical

You trade a piece of your soul

With no return

And who you think you know

Doesn't know you at all

Their drain is needless

Someday we'll wave hello

And wish we'd never waved goodbye

To this romance

We'll drink up every line

And shoot up every word

Till there's no more

Crashing down

Crashing down my friends

Only love

Only love can win

So cry these tears we'll cry as all

We've held so long to fall apart

As the curtain falls we bid you all goodnight

And "Fix You" by Coldplay will bring me to tears every time:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=pY9b6jgbNyc

Actually, anything from Coldplay will do it; that was her favorite and I discovered them through her.

The new song by John Legend hit home for me:

All of me:

What would I do without your smart mouth

Drawing me in, and you kicking me out

You've got my head spinning, no kidding, I can't pin you down

What's going on in that beautiful mind

I'm on your magical mystery ride

And I'm so dizzy, don't know what hit me, but I'll be alright

My head's under water

But I'm breathing fine

You're crazy and I'm out of my mind

'Cause all of me

Loves all of you

Love your curves and all your edges

All your perfect imperfections

Give your all to me

I'll give my all to you

You're my end and my beginning

Even when I lose I'm winning

'Cause I give you all of me

And you give me all of you, oh

How many times do I have to tell you

Even when you're crying you're beautiful too

The world is beating you down, I'm around through every mood

You're my downfall, you're my muse

My worst distraction, my rhythm and blues

I can't stop singing, it's ringing, in my head for you

My head's under water

But I'm breathing fine

You're crazy and I'm out of my mind

'Cause all of me

Loves all of you

Love your curves and all your edges

All your perfect imperfections

Give your all to me

I'll give my all to you

You're my end and my beginning

Even when I lose I'm winning

'Cause I give you all of me

And you give me all of you, oh

Give me all of you

Cards on the table, we're both showing hearts

Risking it all, though it's hard

'Cause all of me

Loves all of you

Love your curves and all your edges

All your perfect imperfections

Give your all to me

I'll give my all to you

You're my end and my beginning

Even when I lose I'm winning

'Cause I give you all of me

And you give me all of you

I give you all of me

And you give me all of you, oh

Quote from: PaulaJeanne on January 17, 2014, 03:48:42 PM

"Wrecking Ball"... . Miley Cyrus

One of the many songs my exBPDgf would post on social media directed at me.

Here is my favorite

"Vilify" by Device

As you vilify, every single move that I make

And try to bind me in your insanity

You'll come to know

That you never had control from the onset

Go find another lap dog, facker

Your need to clarify

Every single word that I say

Has left me wrestling with our disparity

Leave me alone

Take another wretched soul on the hell-ride

Go find a more susceptible sucker

I can't believe this is happening

I don't wanna start over again

A stone I keep falling over again, and again, and again

When you vilify

You begin to nullify, everything that we've ever done

You're facking with my head

As you vilify all I've ever given

I don't wanna fall apart anymore

I wanna end it right now

When you vilify, I start to ponder every battle ever fought

Every thought, imploding in my head

If you vilify, it's a bitter pill that I will force you to devour

Enough, why don't we end it right now?

I've had my fill, and I think I've had enough.

When you open your mouth, every word incenses me

Don't wanna know, why your every waking moment

Revolves around, criticizing every part of me

Another bill, the number cannot be defined

For the blood and the soul, that had to flow incessantly

Fack you all

And let every minute be a reminder of

How you let it all come crashing down

I can't believe this is happening

I don't wanna start over again

A stone I keep falling over again, and again, and again

When you vilify

You begin to nullify, everything that we've ever done

You're facking with my head

As you vilify all I've ever given

I don't wanna fall apart anymore

I wanna end it right now

When you vilify, I start to ponder every battle ever fought

Every thought, imploding in my head

If you vilify, it's a bitter pill that I will force you to devour

Enough, why don't we end it right now?

And when you're broken, and bitter inside

And reality sucks, because you know I'm right

All over nothing, unforgiving inside

Well doesn't it suck, just to know I'm right?

When you vilify

You begin to nullify, everything that we've ever done

You're facking with my head

As you vilify all I've ever given

I don't wanna fall apart anymore

I wanna end it right now

When you vilify, I start to ponder every battle ever fought

Every thought, imploding in my head

If you vilify, it's a bitter pill that I will force you to devour

Enough, why don't we end it right now?

[x2]

MUSE - Our time is running out

I think I'm drowning

Asphyxiated

I wanna break this spell

That you've created

You're something beautiful

A contradiction

I wanna play the game

I want the friction

You will be the death of me

You will be the death of me

Bury it

I won't let you bury it

I won' tlet you smother it

I won't let you murder it

Our time is running out

Our time is running out

You can't push it underground

You can't stop it screaming out

I wanted freedom

Bound and restricted

I tried to give you up

But I'm addicted

Now that you know I'm trapped sense of elation

You'd never dream of

Breaking this fixation

You will squeeze the life out of me

Bury it

I won't let you bury it

I won't let you smother it

I won't let you murder it

Our time is running out

Our time is running out

You can't push it underground

You can't stop it screaming out

How did it come to this?

And

Soul Asylum - Runaway train

Call you up in the middle of the night

Like a firefly without a light

You were there like a slow torch burning

I was a key that could use a little turning

So tired that I couldn't even sleep

So many secrets I couldn't keep

Promised myself I wouldn't weep

One more promise I couldn't keep

It seems no one can help me now

I'm in too deep

There's no way out

This time I have really led myself astray

Runaway train never going back

Wrong way on a one way track

Seems like I should be getting somewhere

Somehow I'm neither here nor there

Can you help me remember how to smile

Make it somehow all seem worthwhile

How on earth did I get so jaded

Life's mystery seems so faded

I can go where no one else can go

I know what no one else knows

Here I 'm just drowning in the rain

With a ticket for a runaway train

Everything is cut and dry

Day and night, earth and sky

Somehow I just don't believe it

Runaway train never going back

Wrong way on a one way track

Seems like I should be getting somewhere

Somehow I'm neither here nor there

Bought a ticket for a runaway train

Like a madman laughing at the rain

Little out of touch, little insane

Just easier than dealing with the pain

Runaway train never coming back

Wrong way on a one way track

Seems like I should be getting somewhere

Somehow I'm neither here nor there

Runaway train never coming back

Runaway train tearing up the track

Runaway train burning in my veins

Runaway but it always seems the same

Cat Stevens - Trouble

Trouble

Oh trouble set me free

I have seen your face

And it's too much too much for me

Trouble

Oh trouble can't you see

You're eating my heart away

And there's nothing much left of me

I've drunk your wine

You have made your world mine

So won't you be fair

So won't you be fair

I don't want no more of you

So won't you be kind to me

Just let me go where

I'll have to go there

Trouble

Oh trouble move away

I have seen your face

and it's too much for me today

Trouble

Oh trouble can't you see

You have made me a wreck

Now won't you leave me in my misery

I've seen your eyes

and I can see death's disguise

Hangin' on me

Hangin' on me

I'm beat, I'm torn

Shattered and tossed and worn

Too shocking to see

Too shocking to see

Trouble

Oh trouble move from me

I have paid my debt

Now won't you leave me in my misery

Trouble

Oh trouble please be kind

I don't want no fight

And I haven't got a lot of time

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T27IMxQ7LeI

As my namesake says:

The more that we take

The paler we get

I can't remember what it is

We try to forget

The tile on the floor

So cold it can sting

In your eyes is a place

Worth remembering

For you to go and take this and smash it apart

I've gone all this f@#%ing way

To wind up back at

Back at the start

Hey, the closer we think we are

Well it only got us so far

Now you got anything left to show

No no I didn't think so

Hey, the sooner we realize

We cover ourselves with lies

But underneath we're not so tough

And love is not enough

Well it hides in the dark

Like the withering vein

We didn't give it a mouth

So it cannot complain

It never really had a chance

We'd never really make it through

I never think I'd believed

I believed I could get better with you

- Trent Reznor, Nine Inch Nails

I listen to way too much NIN. In fact it is all I have listened to since my divorce. That was 5 years ago. Reznor strikes me as a NPD sort of a fellow and I am sure he has had many run ins with pwBPD. Many of his lyrics about relationships and women seem to point to that dynamic. Of course most people think of the Downward Spiral and it's core theme of depression, but it has such a deeper meaning to me now. Even though he has matured since his first album, he still deals with similar relationship issues in his latest album.

The lyric about lies in this song speaks to me particularly because of the all the lies told to me by my gf in the beginning and then all the lies I told to myself to believe them. All those red-flag I chose to ignore or minimize. But in the end it makes me realize that we are both just broken people who need help.

Quote from: kay62105 on February 05, 2014, 10:13:45 AM

Quote from: Love Is Not Enough on February 03, 2014, 03:51:54 PM

The lyric about lies in this song speaks to me particularly because of the all the lies told to me by my gf in the beginning and then all the lies I told to myself to believe them. All those red-flag I chose to ignore or minimize. But in the end it makes me realize that we are both just broken people who need help.

So well said and exactly what I am dealing with. Thank you for sharing and great song pick! I can't think about NIN without thinking about "closer" stupid radio, looks like I need to venture in a little further with them than I've dabbled.

You're welcome! Just be careful. The stuff can drag you down depending on where you are at with things. Lately it has just been helping me reflect on things in a less negative way. Yeah, alot of people look at Closer as a frat boy party anthem, but if you look closely at the lyrics there is a much deeper meaning. The suicidal character of the album is in a great deal of pain and using sex as an escape while dragging the partner along for the ride. Definitely take a look at their other stuff if the sound appeals to you. You will see a lot of interesting things with your new BPD colored glasses *)

Here is a song that's been I'm my head the last couple of weeks

Maybe trying to find the meaning in a song takes mind off of trying to figure out my wife

"Its all over now baby blue"

Bob Dylan

You must leave now, take what you need, you think will last

But whatever you wish to keep, you better grab it fast

Yonder stands your orphan with his gun

Crying like a fire in the sun

Look out the saints are comin’ through

And it’s all over now, Baby Blue

The highway is for gamblers, better use your sense

Take what you have gathered from coincidence

The empty-handed painter from your streets

Is drawing crazy patterns on your sheets

This sky, too, is folding under you

And it’s all over now, Baby Blue

All your seasick sailors, they are rowing home

All your reindeer armies, are all going home

The lover who just walked out your door

Has taken all his blankets from the floor

The carpet, too, is moving under you

And it’s all over now, Baby Blue

Leave your stepping stones behind, something calls for you

Forget the dead you’ve left, they will not follow you

The vagabond who’s rapping at your door

Is standing in the clothes that you once wore

Strike another match, go start anew

And it’s all over now, Baby Blue

Copyright © 1965 by Warner Bros. Inc.; renewed 1993 by Special Rider Music

Lately, I come to this board to read other's posts to gain perspective, or to to a "reality check". Lately, I've been thinking about how often music I hear speaks to me. It often seems to speak of my uBPDw, myself, or about our relationship. So I thought, maybe I should try posting something to this board. Imagine... . I've found that someone else already has. :-) So, I'll add something to contribute.

After 22 years of marriage to my uBPDw, this song about sums up where I feel right now... .

"A Place for My Head" by Linkin Park

www.youtube.com/watch?v=IBcOoW9QgH4

Lyrics:

I watch how the moon sits in the sky on a dark night

Shining with the light from the sun

But the sun doesn't give the light to the moon assuming,

The moon's gonna owe it one

It makes me think of how you act to me

You do favors then rapidly

You just turn around and start asking me,

About things that you want back from me

I'm so sick of the tension

Sick of the hunger

Sick of you acting like I owe you this

Find another place to feed your greed

While I find a place to rest

I wanna be in another place

I hate when you say you don't understand

(You'll see it's not meant to be)

I wanna be in the energy

Not with the enemy

A place for my head

Maybe some day I'll be just like you and

Step on people like you do

Run away all the people I thought I knew

I remember back then who you were

You used to be calm used to be strong

Used to be generous but you shouldve known

That you'd wear out your welcome

now you see how quiet it is all alone

I'm so sick of the tension

Sick of the hunger

Sick of you acting like I owe you this

Find another place to feed your greed

While I find a place to rest

I'm so sick of the tension

Sick of the hunger

Sick of you acting like I owe you this

Find another place to feed your greed

While I find a place to rest

I wanna be in another place

I hate when you say you don't understand

(You'll see it's not meant to be)

I wanna be in the energy

Not with the enemy

A place for my head

You try to take the best of me, go away

You try to take the best of me, go away

You try to take the best of me, go away

You try to take the best of me, GO AWAY

YOU TRY TO TAKE THE BEST OF ME

GO AWAY, YOU TRY TO TAKE THE BEST OF ME

GO AWAY, YOU TRY TO TAKE THE BEST OF ME

GO AWAY, YOU TRY TO TAKE THE BEST OF ME

GO AWAY!

I wanna be in another place

I hate when you say you don't understand

(You'll see it's not meant to be)

I wanna be in the energy

Not with the enemy

A place for my head

I'm so sick of the tension

Sick of the hunger

Sick of you acting like I owe you this

Find another place to feed your greed

While I find a place to rest

I'm so sick of the tension

Sick of the hunger

Sick of you acting like I owe you this

Find another place to feed your greed

While I find a place to rest

-------

I'm interested to know what songs make an inpact on others in my situation.

JaySea

When I was younger I used to listen to Eminem. Today I found one of his CD's again, with a lyric that made me laugh, because it reminded me of my BPDbf :-)

You're just jealous of me

cause you, you just can't do what I do

So instead of just admitting it

You walk around and say

all kinds of really mean things

about me, cause you're a meanie, a meanie

But it's only because you're

just really jealous of me

Cause I'm what you want to be

So you just look like an idiot

when you say these mean things

Cause it's too easy to see

you're really just a big weenie, big weenie

Not really mature, I know, but I laughed harder then I had in a large amount of time :-)

My dBPDgf recently told me that she and her friend down the street came up with a dance for the Madonna song "Borderline" when she was a kid. :light: I also find it interesting that many of the movies and books she likes tend to revolve around troubled people.

Here's a song called "Three Peaches" by Jeff Mangum of Neutral Milk Hotel. This song really affects me ever since I met my GF:

So wake up run your lips across your fingers till you find

Some scent of yourself that you can hold up high

To remind yourself that you didn't die

On a day that was so crappy whole and happy you're alive

You're in the bathroom carving holiday designs into yourself

Hoping no one will find you but they found you

And they took you

And you somehow survived

So wake up and if the holidays don't hollow out your eyes

Then press yourself against whatever

You find to be beautiful and trembling with life

Because I'm so happy you didn't die

All the Same - Sick Puppies

I don't mind where you come from

As long as you come to me

I don't like illusions

I can't see them clearly

I don't care; no, I wouldn't dare

To fix the twist in you

You've shown me eventually

What you'll do

I don't mind

I don't care

As long as you're here

Go ahead, tell me you'll leave again

You'll just come back running

Holding your scarred heart in hand

It's all the same

And I'll take you for who you are

If you take me for everything

Do it all over again

It's all the same

Hours slide, and days go by

Till you decide to come

And in between it always seems too long

All of a sudden

And I have the skill, yeah, I have the will

To breathe you in while I can

However long you stay

Is all that I am

I don't mind

I don't care

As long as you're here

Go ahead, tell me you'll leave again

You'll just come back running

Holding your scarred heart in hand

It's all the same

And I'll take you for who you are

If you take me for everything

Do it all over again

It's always the same

Wrong or right

Black or white

If I close my eyes

It's all the same

In my life

The compromise

I close my eyes

It's all the same

Go ahead, say it - you're leaving

You'll just come back running

Holding your scarred heart in hand

It's all the same

And I'll take you for who you are

If you take me for everything

Do it all over again

It's all the same

The ringtone I've always used her still seems appropriate to me even now that she is leaving.

Love is a burning thing

And it makes a fiery ring

Bound by wild desire

I fell into a ring of fire

I fell into a burning ring of fire

I went down, down, down

And the flames went higher

And it burns, burns, burns

The ring of fire, the ring of fire

I fell into a burning ring of fire

I went down, down, down

And the flames went higher

And it burns, burns, burns

The ring of fire, the ring of fire

The taste of love is sweet

When hearts like ours meet

I fell for you like a child

Oh, but the fire went wild

I fell into a burning ring of fire

I went down, down, down

And the flames went higher

And it burns, burns, burns

The ring of fire, the ring of fire

I fell into a burning ring of fire

I went down, down, down

And the flames went higher

And it burns, burns, burns

The ring of fire, the ring of fire

And it burns, burns, burns

The ring of fire, the ring of fire

The ring of fire

I've noticed that "Pink" and Katy Perry both have songs that sound a whole lot like BPD traits:

Pink, Just Give Me a Reason

"Right from the start

You were a thief, you stole my heart

And I your willing victim

I let you see the parts of me, that weren't all that pretty

And with every touch you fixed them

Now you've been talking in your sleep oh oh

Things you never say to me oh oh

Tell me that you've had enough

Of our love, our love

Just give me a reason, just a little bit's enough

Just a second we're not broken just bent, and we can learn to love again

It's in the stars, it's been written in the scars on our hearts

We're not broken just bent, and we can learn to love again

I'm sorry I don't understand

Where all of this is coming from

I thought that we were fine (Oh we had everything)

Your head is running wild again

My dear we still have everythin'

And it's all in your mind (Yeah but this is happenin'

You've been havin' real bad dreams oh oh

You used to lie so close to me oh oh

There's nothing more than empty sheets between our love, our love

Oh our love, our love... . "

And Katy Perry... . I think she's been with a few BPD people from her lyrics!

Hot N Cold:

"You're wrong when it's right

It's black and it's white

We fight, we break up

We kiss, we make up

You don't really want to stay,

But you don't really want to go

You're hot then you're cold

You're yes then you're no

You're in then you're out

You're up then you're down

Someone call the doctor

Got a case of a love bi-polar

Stuck on a roller coaster

Can't get off this ride"

And then Wide Awake:

"Yeah, I was in the dark

I was falling hard

With an open heart

I'm wide awake

How did I read the stars so wrong?

(I'm wide awake)

And now it's clear to me

That everything you see

Ain't always what it seems

I'm wide awake

Yeah, I was dreaming for so long

I wish I knew then

What I know now

Wouldn't dive in

Wouldn't bow down

Gravity hurts

You made it so sweet

Till I woke up on

On the concrete

Falling from cloud nine

Crashing from the high

I'm letting go tonight

Yeah I'm falling from cloud nine

Thunder rumbling

Castles crumbling (I'm wide awake)

I am trying to hold on (I'm wide awake)

God knows that I tried

Seeing the bright side (I'm wide awake)

I'm not blind anymore"

And then there's ROAR:

"I used to bite my tongue and hold my breath

Scared to rock the boat and make a mess

So I sat quietly, agreed politely

I guess that I forgot I had a choice

I let you push me past the breaking point

I stood for nothing, so I fell for everything

You held me down, but I got up

Already brushing off the dust

You hear my voice, your hear that sound

Like thunder, gonna shake your ground

You held me down, but I got up

Get ready cause I’ve had enough

I see it all, I see it now

I've got the eye of the tiger, a fighter, dancing through the fire

Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR

Louder, louder than a lion

Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR

Oh oh oh oh oh oh

You’re gonna hear me roar"

See... . even celebs with a bootyload of money, beauty and/or fame deal with crazies. Or they are the crazies, who knows. Either way, we are SO not alone in dealing with this people... . they are immortalized in pop culture forever... .

I readt his thread a few weeks ago. Then I heard this song last night. I have always loved this song, but I have not heard it in years. This song is about basic human nature but it has a whole new meaning after being involved with a pwBPD.

Billy Joel - She's Always a Woman To Me

She can kill with a smile

She can wound with her eyes

She can ruin your faith with her casual lies

And she only reveals what she wants you to see

She hides like a child,

But she's always a woman to me

She can lead you to love

She can take you or leave you

She can ask for the truth

But she'll never believe you

And she'll take what you give her, as long as it's free

Yeah, she steals like a thief

But she's always a woman to me

CHORUS:

Oh--she takes care of herself

She can wait if she wants

She's ahead of her time

Oh--and she never gives out

And she never gives in

She just changes her mind

And she'll promise you more

Than the Garden of Eden

Then she'll carelessly cut you

And laugh while you're bleedin'

But she'll bring out the best

And the worst you can be

Blame it all on yourself

Cause she's always a woman to me

--Mhmm--

Bridge

CHORUS:

Oh--she takes care of herself

She can wait if she wants

She's ahead of her time

Oh--and she never gives out

And she never gives in

She just changes her mind

She is frequently kind

And she's suddenly cruel

She can do as she pleases

She's nobody's fool

And she can't be convicted

She's earned her degree

And the most she will do

Is throw shadows at you

But she's always a woman to me

--Mhmm--

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kI3MwwWYC3Q (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kI3MwwWYC3Q)

Quote from: Proud_Dad on March 27, 2014, 09:43:04 AM

mywifecrazy,

I agree, it stopped me in my tracks. The funny thing is my uBPDgf and I were making dinner when it came on and she turned it up and says "Oh my God! I love this song". All i could say was "ya, me too".

Well at least you're learning about BPD so there's a chance your relationship will survive?

I didn't know anything about BPD until after My wife was caught in an affair. One of many it turns out. A very ugly divorce ensued and now she is so out of control that I'm raising my (2) sons myself.

If I had known about BPD things might have been different. The girl I thought I knew never existed. Reminds me of a Led Zeppelin lyric from "Going To California":

"Ride a White Mare on the Footsteps of Dawn, Trying to find a Women Who's never, never, never been Born".

I have been listening to a lot of my old favorites lately and Led Zeppelin has always been toward the top of my list. Funny that you should mention "Going to California" as I heard it over the weekend... . it hit home more than it ever.

Quote from: mywifecrazy on March 27, 2014, 02:00:45 PM

"Ride a White Mare on the Footsteps of Dawn, Trying to find a Women Who's never, never, never been Born".

I got chills when I read your post. When I heard that line in the song I wanted to cry... . I guess my current situation has me looking for meaning and validation in music more.

I love my uBPDgf dearly, but I often find myself dreaming about raising my boys (2 also) on my own. I know it would be difficult but at least I would not have to worry about BPD BS. However, she would never relinquish control of our children to me, not in a million years. The best I could even hope for is 50/50.

Alright P' Daddy,

Now you just pissed me off!

But first let me say how grateful I am that you revived this link. I would have never found it with out you bringing it up again!

Music has always been so healing to me. I have had a hard emotional day. I started to rest by intellectual pursuits at a time when I know that was not the answer. I followed this thread.

What a wonderful evening rediscovering songs I thought I knew and discovering new material that I will add to my collection.

However (feigning anger)

I spent the evening with this tread to see if anyone brought up a so obvious winner.

A song we loved at first, but then grew tired of (in itself typical)

Gotye-Somebody That I Used To Know

It is the perfect, classic example…

Until your post!

I remember getting getting my first paper route at age 11. I joined one of those "Colombia House" get x albums for just a penny. After the onslaught of the first x albums, I received the first one I paid for myself. It was this very album. I can remember pulling out the album sleeve and saying to myself, "this is the ultimate cool!" I learned every note of that album. My love of music grew exponentially. Today, I have hundreds of thousands of songs from Bach to Eminem (and soon thanks to this thread "Buckcherry" on my computer at my beck 'n call. However, I still have that exact (almost 40 year-old) album on my shelf. I identified with this song before, but never knew it like I do now after your post. [I wonder if this may be a source of BJ's struggles today]

You win!

This is the quintessential song.

But I hope this thread stays alive. Sharing music that heals can be as important as sharing thoughts that heal

WOW another Zeppelin Song!

Dazed and Confused

Been Dazed and Confused for so long it's not true.

Wanted a woman, never bargained for you.

Lots of people talkin', few of them know

Soul of a woman was created below.

You hurt and abuse tellin' all of your lies.

Run around sweet baby, Lord how you hypnotize.

Sweet little baby, I don't know where you've been.

Gonna love you baby, here I come again.

Every day I work so hard, bringin' home my hard earned pay

Try to love you baby, but you push me away.

Don't know where you're goin', only know just where you've been,

Sweet little baby, I want you again.

Been dazed and confused for so long, it's not true.

Wanted a woman, never bargained for you.

Take it easy baby, let them say what they will.

Will your tongue wag so much when I send you the bill?

Pecator,

I am with you in the connection to emotional music. This type of song never hit me like they have lately. I have always loved music as well and have a very vast collection from classical to bluegrass, from big band to emerging 80's punk, and everything in between. Before my relationship with my pwBPD I always connected to the energy of the music and the place it took me. I have recently found myself scrutinizing lyrics in an attempt to find solace in the shared experiences and trauma. This has allowed me an additional outlet for my frustration in my r/s with my uBPDgf and I can take my enjoyment of music to another level. I am an engineer by trade (not conducive to BPD r/s btw) and these outlets are much needed by the end of a long day, and allow my uBPDgf and I to connect on neutral ground.

I hope I didn't ruin this song for you by pointing out my perception of BPD behavior in Bill's lyrics. I have always loved this song, now I feel like I owe Bill a beer.

mywifecrazy,

Any song by Zeppelin is welcome on my playlist at any time of day. Again, I have always connected to ":)azed and Confused" and never understood why until my current r/s.

KEEP 'EM COMIN!

Heartbreaker-Led Zeppelin

Well, it's been ten years and maybe more since I first set eyes on you.

The best years of my life gone by, here I am alone and blue.

Some people cry and some people die by the wicked ways of love;

But I'll just keep on rollin' along with the grace from the Lord above.

People talkin' all around 'bout the way you left me flat,

I don't care what the people say, I know where their jive is at.

One thing I do have on my mind, if you can clarify please do,

It's the way you call me another guy's name when I try to make love to you.

I try to make love but it ain't no use.

Give it to me

Give it

Work so hard I couldn't unwind, get some money saved;

Abuse my love a thousand times, however hard I tried.

Heartbreaker, your time has come, can't take your evil way;

Go away, Heartbreaker.

Heartbreaker!

Heartbreaker!

Heart!

"Cold" and "She's So Mean" by Matchbox 20:

"Cold"

I will do without

The spaces in between

If you can tell me now

What it means to be

You have been found out

I have been deceived

By the one that I need

Tell me why you gotta be so cold

How'd you get so high

Why you're keeping me low

You dont know, you don't know

Tell me how we're gonna make it last

You're ready to fly

I'm ready to crash

Don't go, don't go, no

You will go without

A better part of me

There will be no doubt

What this all could mean

You will be found out

I can not believe

In the one that I need

Tell me why you gotta be so cold

How'd you get so high

Why you're keeping me low

You don't know, you don't know, don't know

And tell me how we're gonna make it last

You're ready to fly

I'm ready to crash

Don't go, don't go away

"She's So Mean"

I kn-kn-know a girl, she gets what she wants all the time

'Cause she's fine

But for an angel, she's a hot hot mess

Make you so blind

But you don't mind

'Cause she's an uptown, get-around, anything-goes girl, girl

She's a hardcore, candy-store, gimme-some-more girl, girl

She'll make you take her to the club, but then she leaves with her friends

She likes to stay late at the party, 'cause the fun never ends

And all her clothes are on the floor and all your records are scratched

She's like a one-way ticket 'cause you can't come back!

Saying yeah... . you want her, but she's so mean

(You’ll never let her go. Why don’t you let her go?)

Yeah... . you want her, but she's so mean

(You’ll never let her go. Why don’t you let her go?)

You kn-kn-know that if you don’t shut your mouth, she’ll freak out

You better get your hit together, ‘cause she’s bringing you down now

Yeah boy you better, you better

'Cause she's an uptown, get-around, anything-goes girl, girl

She's a hardcore, candy-store, gimme-some-more girl, girl

She’s got her wicked sense of humor, can’t believe what she says

She drinks Bacardi in the morning ‘til it goes to her head

And all you want is just to hold her, but she don’t go for that

She has a hard time coming when she can’t hit back

Saying yeah... . you want her, but she's so mean

(You’ll never let her go. Why don’t you let her go?)

Yeah... . you want her, but she's so mean

(You’ll never let her go. Why don’t you let her go?)

Every now and then, she makes you just a little bit crazy

She’ll turn a knife into your back and then she’s calling you baby, crazy

She'll make you take her to the club, but then she leaves with her friends

She likes to stay late at the party, 'cause the fun never ends

And all her clothes are on the floor and all your records are scratched

She's like a one-way ticket 'cause you can't come back!

Saying yeah... . you want her, but she's so mean

(You’ll never let her go. Why don’t you let her go?)

Yeah... . you want her, but she's so mean

(You’ll never let her go. Why don’t you let her go?)

New one I just heard from a guy named Parker Millsap -- "The Villain." (https://www.musixmatch.com/lyrics/Parker-Millsap-2/The-Villain#)

Excerpt

I don't wanna be

The villain in your dreams any more

I don't wanna be

The reason you lose sleep anymore

I don't wanna be the one

That locks the door and loads the gun

and pulls the trigger 'til you wake up sore

I don't wanna be

The villain in your dreams anymore

I don't wanna be

the one that lets you down anymore

I don't wanna be

The gravity the ground anymore

I don't wanna be the man

that lifts you up and helps you stand

then holds you high and drops you to the floor

I don't wanna be

The one that lets you down anymore

I don't wanna be

The one that holds you back anymore

I don't wanna be

The missing piece of track anymore

I don't wanna be the guy

that straps you to a railroad tie

and listens for the rumble and the roar

I don't wanna be

the villain in your dreams anymore

Interesting how it can be interpreted from both sides, too. Could be an abuser's prayer for redemption or a partner/friend/family member's response to being repeatedly painted black. Either way, worth a listen (https://www.musixmatch.com/lyrics/Parker-Millsap-2/The-Villain#).

Quote from: kay62105 on January 31, 2014, 08:12:53 AM

I love this song. My ex once texted me the whole song. I suspect it was how we both felt about one another. I know its how i feel about him.

Taylor Swift - Blank Space

I think many on here can relate to this song.

Nice to meet you

Where you been?

I could show you incredible things

Magic, madness, heaven, sin

Saw you there and I thought oh my god

Look at that face, you look like my next mistake

Love's a game, wanna play

New money, suit and tie

I can read you like a magazine

Ain't it funny rumors fly

And I know you heard about me

So hey, let's be friends

I'm dying to see how this one ends

Grab your passport and my hand

I could make the bad guys good for a weekend

[Pre-Chorus]

So it's gonna be forever

Or it's gonna go down in flames

You can tell me when it's over

If the high was worth the pain

Got a long list of ex-lovers

They'll tell you I'm insane

Cause you know I love the players

And you love the game

[Chorus]

Cause we're young and we're reckless

We'll take this way too far

It'll leave you breathless

Or with a nasty scar

Got a long list of ex-lovers

They'll tell you I'm insane

But I got a blank space baby

And I'll write your name

Cherry lips

Crystal skies

I could show you incredible things

Stolen kisses, pretty lies

You're the king baby I'm your queen

Find out what you want

Be that girl for a month

But the worst is yet to come

Oh no

Screaming, crying, perfect storms

I could make all the tables turn

Rose garden filled with thorns

Keep you second guessing like oh my god

Who is she? I get drunk on jealousy

But you'll come back each time you leave

Cause darling I'm a nightmare dressed like a daydream

Source: www.directlyrics.com/taylor-swift-blank-spaces-lyrics.html

When gf is in one of her withdrawals, there are 3 songs she plays over and over again.

Sam Smith - Stay with me

Rita Ora - I will never let you down

Eminem - Evil Twin

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