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Title: i want to break the nc Post by: afdezm on January 27, 2014, 02:33:22 AM I finished my 4 year relationship with my exBPD 5 months ago. His new victim lived in another city the first 4 months. During this time she was Triangulation (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=121673.0) with both. I learned that she had BPD once the relationship ended and it cost me assimilate all the things that i read about BPD.
I felt special that she contacted me. Now I know it was just because she was feeling lonely. When she moved with the new victim, she completely forgot me. I also started the NC. I can hardly take in what the "out of sight, out of mind". I just took a month of NC but I find it very difficult. I have better days and worse days like today. But I do not recover. Today I would like to send a message of "how are you" but I know it only bring more pain and she can not answer me. How did you overcome? Sorry for my english Title: Re: i want to break the nc Post by: Moonie75 on January 27, 2014, 02:37:10 AM Grit your teeth & bare it my friend.
There's no magic involved, just sheer determination & grit! Title: Re: i want to break the nc Post by: growing_wings on January 27, 2014, 02:48:13 AM Moonie is right.
THis is difficult stuff. it requires strength and endurance. i take each day as it comes, and i try to move on with my life, get busy, start new projects, but somedays, i just surrender to the fact that i am down or low, i let it be. focus on yourself, if you are thinking about her and worried about her, you are living HER life, not yours. get on with your life... . if you message now, you will had your power back to her. keep your power! stay there... . |