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Hello everyone!

This forum has been helping me more than I ever thought.  I can't believe there are so many of us on the same team.  We all know why we are all here.  Many of us have shared our stories and its amazing (in a good/bad way) how many of us are in very similar situations.  I was wondering if anyone knows of any sites or forums where people with BPD post their stories and situations.  It would be interesting to read a forum by these people and I think it could help a lot of us as well.

There are forums, but they are designed for pwBPD and can trigger us.

I found youtube - Tami Green - she is a recovered BPD and has great information to be very informative.

Hey hybridax, I agree with seeking balance, meaning the support forums for BPDers are out there but many of the discussions can be triggering for the nonBPD. They are very interesting to read, and many posts can elicit sympathy. Other posts though seem very full of denial which is understandable. If you seek them out, please read with caution.

There are a number of blogs by people with BPD, some of them recovered, i.e. no longer meeting the DSM-IV diagnostic criteria. These are very enlightening.

Trigger us how?

Well, what brought you to these boards emotionally?

Trying to figure out how my ex could leave me all of a sudden for someone else that lives 2000 miles away and discard me like I was nothing and ignore me like I never existed... .

Emotionally, you probably feel lost, hurt, invalidated, "not enough" - those sound familiar?

Triggering is when you read what other pwBPD have to say about how they could leave you - it will be like taking those negative emotions and amplifying them.

Sticking with recovered pwBPD is likely to give you more insight than a forum designed for pwBPD.

Buddha and the Borderline is a great book and youtube has good stuff too.

Do a google search for "heaven borderline blog"... . not sure I am allowed to link to it.

It's a blog made by a girl with BPD, it provided some very interesting insight for me. You can search the blog, which is quite useful as she has written so much that you will be fully recovered and remarried before you read all of it!  :)

I did feel those things and at times I still do.  Im just trying to figure out how I should go about reaching out to her in a positive way, because despite what she has done, I still care about her... .

Well, if you are going to communicate with her - it is best to go to the staying board lessons and really practice the communication tools so you can be of support when she does reach out.

In the meantime, I found article 9 - https://bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a109.htm

very helpful.

If you do care about her, make sure to learn about the disorder and the first thing you need to do is get yourself emotionally healthy so you are capable of being supportive.  Marsha Linehan is the DBT expert and you can really learn a lot by reading her work on BPD and the recovery.

thank you!

The forums for pwBPD will illicit a reaction out of you. Be very careful.