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Title: She's Still Attached, Fear of Abandonment
Post by: Turkish on February 02, 2014, 01:50:08 AM
I've been banishing myself to the backyard for the past few months, to get out of the house as much as I can... . or lock myself in my room to try to sleep early. She knows what I am doing. Still turns on the light to confirm I am there. I usually give a wave. Maybe she is afraid the burglers will get me... . kids in the house sleeping peacefully, but she still can't feel alone. She really fears lonliness. I guess she and the boy toy will be staying with each other when she doesn't have the kids... . or will even when she does. The next challenge, dealing with mostly S4 when he starts seeing this.

I told a friend, who also knows her, that her fears drive her. He offered that the opposite of fear is love. Still processing that... .


Title: Re: She's Still Attached, Fear of Abandonment
Post by: KE151 on February 02, 2014, 04:13:59 AM
Insofar as love=feeling 100% safe which I think it means, then yes, it makes sense that fear is the polar opposite. That would explain why their "love" is so twisted. Intriguing.