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Don't know if it could be useful for someone to know it but i want to share something going on inside me that gave wave of pleasure and almost a kind of sigh of relief :)

For the first time,after almost two years of relationship with my exBPDgf and after 4 months from the end of it,i feel a certain attraction for another woman who i recently met.

It is not the beginning of a new relationship or something serious but i just found myself thinking often at her this past few days and to wish her ​​company which i really enjoy and this is making me very happy about.

Until some time ago for me was UNTHINKABLE to be attracted by an another woman who was not my ex ,the thought gave me just aches and pains... . it's like to have rediscovered that in the world there are so many nice people,healthy and positive,with which i might be comfortable... . and it is a BEAUTIFUL warm little hidden feeling... . i'm still very in love and attached to my ex and her power over me is still very strong,but i consider this new attraction for an another woman as an important step forward for me.

However i'm not going to flirt with her,because I don't feel ready for any type of relationship with the opposite sex at the moment,only tomorrow i'll start my course of therapy to discover myself and until i'm not completely healed and conscious of who i am,what i really want and why i made ​​certain choices in the past (especially the one of having a love affair with a disturbed person like my ex and why i'm not able to get out of it ) i think it wouldn't smart or healty for me to begin any other affair as it would not be fair to this girl i really like.

This unexpected thing has given me a new hope and recharged a little my emotional and psychological energies... . and i wanted to share it with you all... . i hope these words could be useful for someone 

That's a great sign of recovery, Bro!

Nice!

Don't put too much hope into this yet though because disappointments are more painful in our situation than normal.

Hello there 

In fact,i'm not doing any thinking about a possible romance with this person because as i explained i'm not ready emotionally and psychologically since my attachment to my ex is still very strong and i'm far from my complete healing... . although i must admit that a part of me would just like it.I just want to emphasize how... . FOR THE FIRST TIME my feelings and my thoughts toward my ex are not as all-encompassing as they were until a short time ago... . that for the first time I can "see" and have an interest in another woman who is not my ex... . and i think that should be regarded as a positive thing :)

enjoy it, life goes on, and the pain will vanish until you're ready for someone new, when you'll be grown as a new and wiser you  :)

I'm having a similar experience right now, not only did I meet someone whom I really like and feel attracted to, but I think it's the first time in my life that I met someone who could actually be like a "good match" for me, the kind of guy that my mom would welcome with open arms... . and that is something that never happened to me in all my adult life, so about twenty years!

I have no idea if there's gonna be a real relationship in this, but what is important: it's a sign that not only I'm gettin g over my ex(es) but also it seems that I did finally learn some important lessons in my life, and apparently I needed my "disordered" exes to open my eyes and get to know myself... .

Glad to hear it. I can't wait until I feel this.

That's awesome, Nicco! I'm so happy for you :) Enjoy the moment... . |iiii