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Do you guys have any examples about your ex childish behavior? Mine was often talking like a child especially after an argument (like she was looking for my pity). Sometimes she would really act like a child. Singing childish songs. When she would see her family dog she would litteraly be like a 5 years old... . running after him, chasing him, laying on the floor with him.

hahahaha, oh my God, mine was the same  Especially the dog thing, she would change her voice and act like a baby and tell him she loved and adored him, stuff she would rarely say to me.

Did not make much of it until we broke up, now that I think about it, quite morbid stuff

dzstyle,

WOW - my uBPD/NPD ex gf of 3 years was so emotionally immature it would drive me crazy.  She'd literally have 5 year old meltdowns and just lacked empathy like a child.  A 42 year old professional and she held on to a childish jealousy of my teen daughter.  She parented her three young kids like a child raising children with no rules, rewards or boundaries.  All three kids are messed up, unfortunately.  I have read and heard that the emotional immaturity thing is a trait of BPD and NPD.  The resulting behavior and attitude was just unacceptable to me.  I swear one of the biggest things I'm looking for as I start to date is emotional maturity.  Hey, a young spirit is one thing but not at all what I endured in the last r/s.  

Mine didn't talk like a child, although I have read that they sometimes do. One of things that she did do often when we where in a fight, is that she would repeat the same thing over and over again, to drown out what I was trying to say, much like a child "I'm done listening to you Mutt!, I'm done listening to you Mutt!, blah blah blah".

She couldn't handle me saying the truth, or that she was wrong and this is when these child like antics would emerge.

Same here for the arguments. Towards the end of the r/s, i wasnt even bothering arguing with her. It would drive her crazy. She was like can you talk to me please. For the arguments, even if i proved by 1+1=2 that what she was fighting for she would still deny. I remember one day she was mad at me because we didnt spend enough time together even though we were leaving at the same place. I told her to bring a calendar and to cross the days we did things together. Never wanted to do it

My ex did this often, her abandonment fears were being triggered. It's not because we were in the same space, it's her feelings and how she perceived them.

I remember she used to tel me if one day we have kids... i have to make sure that she will get as much attention as the kids.

Mine never told me that explicitly, but that is the reason she got triggered and started her affair and then left me. Because I told her (in a way) that it wasn't possibly to have a teen romance r/s and that we needed to focus on being parents. Kids come first, we chose it, that's what adults do. Pawning them off on her mom so much so we could go out on dates was unacceptable. Hence her months long extinction burst/tantrum.

My exBPDgf really liked rabbits and wanted a live one, but couldn't because she lived in an apartment.  As a joke I bought her a stuffed animal that made rabbit noises and kind of shuffled around.  She didn't take it as a joke and treasured it, which was fine, until she became jealous when her 7 year old daughter tried to play with it.  She started hiding it before her daughter would come over.

Mine at the age of 22 was still sleeping with her 2 stuffed animals that she had since childhood.

Yup, slept with stuffies, had infantile oralisms, baby talked, temper tantrums. there were times I felt I was taking care of a three year old mental patient. Stating fact, not trying to be mean. It was sickening, not cute.

"infantile oralisms"  *chuckle*

is that a  clinical term or did you put that together?

At first, it was fun, I liked that she was so young at heart.

The more I got to know her, I saw it wasn't always such a good thing.

Mine would whine and pout to get me to do things or have a temper tantrums. She would also have a childish voice. She would have many childish facial expressions and gestures. She would also act like a little school girl when someone would give her attention. She would be mesmerized and into anything they said when a guy was talking to her even when it was right in front of me. Also, maybe not a child like behaviour, but she would talk and talk and talk all the time, it was so annoying that i would grind my teeth when she opened her mouth.

What was weird is she is a year older than me, but i act older. Im not saying im mature and i definitely do not act like a child. Mine also had a pet rabbit and would baby talk to it. I think she loved him more than she loved me. Also she had dozens of stuff animals and pillows on her bed.

Also it is weird how my preference of women has changed. Being mentally/emotionally stable is now a turn on for me. Being a kid at heart is good sometimes but there are times to be an adult.

I think mine had the childish behavior when he was feeling loved. To what extent that may be.  After sex and snuggling he would do baby talk. Really it creeped me out.  I yelled at him once that I didn't want to be in bed or have sex with a little boy.

He would also act childish in front of me and the kids.  skipping through a parking lot.  Riding grocery carts.  My kids were in high school by then-embarrassing.

For my ex, snuggling was a must. She was planning it like it was a necessary activity during the day and it has to last a long time. Sometimes we would be watching tv (she didn't like movies (first time of my life I ve met someone like that) and all the shows that had a bit of suspense, and she would just turn off the TV and ask for a snuggling moment. She was even calling me her snuggly baby.