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I basically got all of her stuff out of my room so when she comes over tomorrow, it's stacked in the spare room. My door will be closed. She has no business in there. I didn't pry, as much as just categorize and organize to toss things together. She left her hs diploma, passport (!) and other important paper, as well as a lot of little things. I did find a personal letter. Ok, so I opened it. It looked like it was from a lady, the writing was so flowery and actually, the penmanship was remarkable.

It was from the ex-narc (possible NPD) she had before me. The content of the letter would do the seducer from Dangerous Liaisons proud. It was compelling and richly romantic, saying how he fell for her and all that, and their kisses were meaningful. I did a scan, wasn't important to me.

The thing about that guy was that she was a few months out from the Love Of Her Life (another narc) cheating on her (which I just realized a few months ago, thinking about the timeline), dumping her, recycling as FWB, then leaving her permanently. She was devastated. The letter narc was a guy she was literally cat-called out on the street, telling her how pretty she was. She said, "whatever!" and kept walking. He said, "no, really!" And thus started like an 8 month r/s, IIRC. She showed me a pic once of them, throwing it away to show me she had detached, and he looked happy, but she looked like someone stomped her puppy. Very unhappy. The guy "embarrassed" her sexually (which I found surprising, as she was minimally inhibited, but a little bit), stole her car after living with her for two weeks, and she ended up getting a RO on him after that. A year later, she found out, in a weird coincidence, that he ended up in the county jail for a short time on an unrelated matter, and that he ended up with a cell mate who was the ex idiot BF of my Ex's little sister. The narc told the other guy about how he reeled in and got over on my Ex so easily and it was cheap pickings. My Ex's attachment to him was none. She was embarassed after the fact that she was even with the guy. I didn't see it as a red-flag, but as a devaluing r/s for her because she felt so low after getting dumped by the other guy.

After reading this letter... . wow. Total NPD! And now that seems to be what she has recycled back to. The total schmoozer. She is so sad, it elicits pity from me, though this new one is more like her first one, not the criminal.