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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Perfidy on February 16, 2014, 12:48:15 PM



Title: I didn't talk to her and disappeared.
Post by: Perfidy on February 16, 2014, 12:48:15 PM
She contacted me. I didn't talk to her and disappeared.


Title: Re: I didn't talk to her and disappeared.
Post by: ShadowDancer on February 16, 2014, 02:19:39 PM
Like the Cheshire Cat? Can something that is so vexing and without a body present be beheaded? Yes? No? Maybe... .


Title: Re: I didn't talk to her and disappeared.
Post by: fromheeltoheal on February 16, 2014, 02:25:44 PM
She contacted me. I didn't talk to her and disappeared.

So what do you conclude from that Perfidy?


Title: Re: I didn't talk to her and disappeared.
Post by: ShadowDancer on February 16, 2014, 02:35:20 PM
I have often seen a cat without a grin but never a grin without a cat.


Title: Re: I didn't talk to her and disappeared.
Post by: myself on February 16, 2014, 02:42:25 PM
She was looking for the old you.

You reappeared much better.

She didn't really see you.


Title: Re: I didn't talk to her and disappeared.
Post by: Perfidy on February 16, 2014, 03:14:05 PM
This started as a reply to a broken contact thread. All good.

I simply walked away. She wanted to talk, I didn't. She came right up to me and put her hand on my right arm. Told me that I haunt all of her dreams and she thinks about me every day. First time in almost a year she said she was sorry. She didn't say what she was sorry for though. I didn't ask. I didn't solicit contact. Didn't want contact. Don't want her.

We have nothing to talk about. It's all been said. I don't need to be told twice. I have nothing to add.

My conclusion of her behavior? I have no idea what motivated her and I don't care. Nothing good could possibly come of any interaction with her.

Later that night I cried for the first time in a long time. I am through the worst of it but hurt remains in me. Working it out. It's ok.


Title: Re: I didn't talk to her and disappeared.
Post by: starshine on February 16, 2014, 03:21:05 PM
Wow.   


Title: Re: I didn't talk to her and disappeared.
Post by: tango1492 on February 16, 2014, 03:38:27 PM
Perfidy,

I'm impressed. I know I'm absolutely not at the point where I could/would turn my back if my uBPD ex boyfriend professed all of that. In fact, he's said similar things a few times before and I've broken down and responsded every time. Of coures it led to nothing good.

I am sure you did the right thing.