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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: itsnotme567 on March 03, 2014, 11:25:36 AM



Title: something she asked me years ago keeps coming to mind
Post by: itsnotme567 on March 03, 2014, 11:25:36 AM
When we started hanging out she asked if someone had hurt me in the past because it seemed like I was behind a wall.

Things have certainly changed now when we got together I was 50 never dated never been in love. But I can say even though I've been hurt now I've learned a lot.


Title: Re: something she asked me years ago keeps conning to mind
Post by: seeking balance on March 03, 2014, 11:47:16 AM
When we started hanging out she asked if someone had hurt me in the past because it seemed like I was behind a wall.

Things have certainly changed now when we got together I was 50 never dated never been in love. But I can say even though I've been hurt now I've learned a lot.

Why do you think this statement is coming to mind for you now?


Title: Re: something she asked me years ago keeps coming to mind
Post by: itsnotme567 on March 03, 2014, 10:08:23 PM
Maybe just thinking of how I've changed since we've been together. I've been hurt but I've learned some things as well


Title: Re: something she asked me years ago keeps coming to mind
Post by: seeking balance on March 03, 2014, 10:18:27 PM
I've been hurt but I've learned some things as well

Yeah, there is a lot to learn from these relationships if we let ourselves.  Want to share what you've learned?


Title: Re: something she asked me years ago keeps coming to mind
Post by: Turkish on March 03, 2014, 10:23:01 PM
When we started hanging out she asked if someone had hurt me in the past because it seemed like I was behind a wall.

Things have certainly changed now when we got together I was 50 never dated never been in love. But I can say even though I've been hurt now I've learned a lot.

Hi itsnotme567, when you say you've never been in love, does this include your stbxBPDw? I'm curious, because looking at everything with my uBPDx, I'm sure I wasn't, despite times now and then I felt like I was.


Title: Re: something she asked me years ago keeps coming to mind
Post by: itsnotme567 on March 04, 2014, 08:20:25 AM
I felt like I was in love with her but what does love feel like. I may have to wait to I fall in love again to be sure.