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During our relationship, I had to delete my now exBPDbf of my social network because of his posessiveness. It was impossible to keep him on my facebook without him complaining about every single male friend that I had. So I deleted him.

Then one day he confessed to me that he had created a fake profile of mine, and he would have conversations with himself (I.e: he would go to this fake profile and send himself messages pretending it was me proclaiming undying love) when we were not speaking after an argument or something!

How very bizarre and disordered was that?

Another thing he used to say was that he liked my teeth very much and if I died he would like to have a necklace made out of my them!

I took it as a joke at the time but now I see it as a very sick thing to say!

Ewww

BPD is a spectrum disorder so it isn't surprising that many borderlines are psychotic and missing a couple of French fries from their happy meal. My ex was possessive and pretty chauvinistic with his manhood but yet I stayed because I translated his depravity as "care" and "protection" something I didn't have much of growing up.

If I were healthy I would have ran like hell but I stayed in spite of his alarming sadistic neurotically territorial displays.  My ex was always connecting my actions to cheating and abandoning him and I drove me up the wall. He was very handsome but oh so insecure and nutty. My issue was making light out of what should have been concerning behavior. I pressed on in hopes of fixing or refiguring parts of his personality to suit me.

My ex loved beautiful teeth as well. For him it translated to mean that I looked "less flawed" than other women so therefore that made "him" look better. It was all pretty vapid and superficial but he was consumed about looking good in the eyes of others. I call this the narcissistic cover up. They don't care I'd they feel bad as long as they look good. But this why why they're such empty human beings.

In the beginning the bizarre behavior are the red flags that are simply giving you a preview of the BPD show.

Spell

that is pretty crazy and creepy.

You're so right Bpdspell!

I should had ran away as soon as the cracks started appearing, but like you I stayed. Confused!

He said so many times no other man would love me like he did.

What a joke!

"missing a couple of French fries from their happy meal." You made me LOL at work really loud. Thanks for that... .

Miss Tajo you beat me to the post!

" missing a couple of French fries from their happy meal."    :) LOVE IT, made me chuckle big time!


Bpdspell you are spot on!

My friend, it was all about her! I knew it for a long time but it was gradual, I loved her so I put up with it, plus my profound need to please!

There was a red flag early on however that was so out of character from what I'd seen so far.It really stunned me !

She had been, I guess in the seduction faze, so was so warm and thoughtful and incredibly focused on me.

We went on holiday together, we were walking through a shopping centre, ( shopping is one of her FAV things!) I started talking and suddenly she snapped back a response like I was a bug buzzing around bothering her!

Well I've come to understand the whole relationship revolved around what I could do for her and me simply going along with her adventures and needs.

Towards the end, a typical example of this was , we'd had a falling out and I managed to defuse the situation greatly by saying something like, "hey come on I love you , you big dope" when I rang her. Well it kind of broke the ice a little but she was still very icy!

She was drunk and had no transport home.We ended the call , and minutes later she rang back all sweet and faking total togetherness again and wouldn't you know it , I was skillfully talked out of my pajamas, into clothes , into my car and on to a 35 minute drive at night to pick her up and drive her home!   

You listen to this folks.

There was this one time when exBPDbf who lived 2 hours away by train started becoming paranoid that I was sleeping with someone else. So about midnight he rang me up and told me to meet him at the train station cos he was on his way to London and wanted me to pick him up.

My car was getting fixed so I had no car. I got changed and called for a cab. On my way to the station he asked me where I was, I told him I was on my way. He didn't believe me, so he made me take a pic and send it to him. Then he sent a text msg saying: it's ok u can go back home, I don't wanna bother u.

I told him he'd better meet me at the station.

When I got to the station he was nowhere to be seen. Then mins later he told me he never left his home. He never got the train to London.

How vile was that?

Nor only did I pay a fortune on cab fare but felt very vulnerable on my own that late.

I can't believe I still forgave him after that!

BPDspell, as usual, is spot on. Those with BPD are very territorial. My ex was so convinced that I was cheating on her with my friend who cuts my hair, that she threw a gigantic fit one time for me to let her cut my hair. At the time, I was so angry with her about this, but in the end I let her do it.

As BPDspell insinuated, if I was a healthy person at that point in time, I too would have ran like hell from a behavior that is clearly bizarre. Instead I caved in and let her do it. The lesson for me? Never again will people cross those boundaries in my life.