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Title: Histrionic Personality Disorder. New to me. Should I stay NC? Post by: cheaptrick on March 09, 2014, 02:57:44 PM Short. Been with a girl diagnosed professionally with HPD. After 2 years of dating, I finally had a blow out because she would literally belittle me and insult me in every day discussions and I finally called her out on it. I reminded her of changing the subject mid sentence right after attending my mother's funeral to herself and her interest and she started a fight about me liking some other girls facebook posting etc... I finally told her that after 2 years of this type of behavior and self absorption, I was done. She immediately went berserk about cussed me out and stormed out. She blocked me on facebook and has disappeared. I went NC. My question is, can people with HBD be cured and is it worth the journey to see her thru this although I did find out that all her past ex's dumped her for the same reason. All said she displayed ALL of the traits of HPD to the letter. What do do? WHAT TO DO?
Title: Re: Histrionic Personality Disorder. New to me. Should I stay NC? Post by: ogopogodude on March 09, 2014, 07:02:36 PM What to do?
This is a personal choice that only YOU can make. There really is only ONE question that you have to ask yourself: Can I live with this person --that has this affliction-- for the REST of my life? (it is pretty much accepted that a personality disorder is a life long thing and one cannot be 'cured' of it, but the person to give u advice on this topic is a psychologist or a a psychiatrist) Title: Re: Histrionic Personality Disorder. New to me. Should I stay NC? Post by: fromheeltoheal on March 09, 2014, 07:33:21 PM Check the Staying board and see what those folks go through; there are skills and tools that make dealing with disorders better, more tolerable. I say you'd really have to be into the person to put up with all that crap, I certainly wasn't, but then again no one's perfect, and if the good outweighs the bad, maybe there's bliss to be found.
Title: Re: Histrionic Personality Disorder. New to me. Should I stay NC? Post by: cheaptrick on March 13, 2014, 02:11:11 PM Thank you for your input. What really upsets me is the same night we had a fight, I immediately wrote her and explained that she was so over the top in her HPD type bashing of me at dinner, that when she asked if we should break up (pointed at me and screamed it 10 times while i tried to explain that she wasn't listening to me even when i said no),
i finally said "yes", and then she stormed off, deleted everything on facebook, all pics, blocked me and I have not heard from her ever since. I sent her one last text telling her to calm down and that she forced me to say Yes to breaking up, and that that's not what I wanted and that she shouldn't ignore me. So she went NC before me which was over a week ago,and have not heard from her ever since. I was tempted to write again and explain thet she was being abusive and force me to say yes because she wouldn't take a no. So if she went NC, then how does my NC deal with this. He/she who writes first loses? she is stubborn. |