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Title: Are they more likely to have lasting friendships with other BPD people? Post by: Popcorn71 on March 16, 2014, 06:41:07 PM I have just realised that the one friend who has been constantly in my exBPDh life for the 10 years I have known him, is also BPD in my opinion. This friend has been divorced 6 times and even though he is in his 70s still tries to find women in bars and on dating sites. He has lots of BPD traits and I warned my ex that I could see him ending up like this friend if we divorced. I do think this will happen.
Is it usual for them to be friends with somebody very similar? All the other friends have come and gone although there are some that appear to be recycled sometimes. Title: Re: Are they more likely to have lasting friendships with other BPD people? Post by: SWLSR on March 16, 2014, 11:54:20 PM My BPD ex wife had some friends from time to time that may have been BPD but they never lasted none of her friendships do. i don't think they have lasting friendships
Title: Re: Are they more likely to have lasting friendships with other BPD people? Post by: snappafcw on March 17, 2014, 01:41:36 AM From what I hear on these boards a longer lasting BPD relationship be that friendship or other usually comes hand in hand with someone who has NPD tendencies... . I believe this to be true as my ex's one long time friend (who sometimes bails) has both NPD and BPD tendencies herself. The girl I dated beforehand also had a similar friend. Why would you go anywhere if you enable each other... .
Title: Re: Are they more likely to have lasting friendships with other BPD people? Post by: GuiltHaunted on March 17, 2014, 06:04:43 AM The best friend of my uBPDexgf, is a single mother, who struggles with short in-stabile relationships. Her son is diagnosed ADHD. Go figure... .
I read too, that pwBPD often make friendship bonds with other BPD. I don't want to put a diagnose on her friend, but suffice is to say that she is struggling with her own mess. Title: Re: Are they more likely to have lasting friendships with other BPD people? Post by: bossanover on March 17, 2014, 07:06:01 AM my exBPDgf's so called "best friend" has a lot of issues. She couldn't hide it like my ex could, and I always thought she was trouble. Once the smear campaign started I realised they were like peas in a pod, they both just crave drama and push each other into fulfilling each others toxic needs.
I'm sure there's a time limit on this friendship (like all the others), but for now it's "birds of a feather... " I guess |