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Title: Why do we hang on for so long? Post by: heartbroken25 on March 21, 2014, 10:26:46 AM Been with my dBPDh for 11 years of marriage and all together as a couple for 26years. He has recently left me, again. Twice since we've been married and before then about 3 times, so needless to say I've allowed myself to be re-cycled. Why do we endure so much? Do we love too much or not love ourselves enough? Are we emotional masochist? I am struggling. I know I'm a good person like I'm sure most of you are. I'm kind, loving, caring. Honestly, I don't know how to be any other way and don't want to change that. But I also feel that this is getting in the way of finding my anger and setting boundaries. :'(
Title: Re: Why do we hang on for so long? Post by: MissyM on March 21, 2014, 02:22:39 PM This is the most important questions for us to ask ourselves! Therapy is so helpful for this. I realize that I was conditioned pretty early on to tolerate the intolerable. My mother had a breakdown when I was about 11 and I became the caretaker. Therefore, I forgive way too many things and allow myself to be taken advantage of. I am working on changing that and it is hard work.
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