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Title: BPD friend trying to reach out after NC? Post by: Coolfry77 on March 22, 2014, 06:13:01 PM Hey all,
So long story short I had this BPD friend who I was really close to but for the past 6 months or so she has split me black and has hated me. Now we have been NC for around 6 weeks and the last time we spoke she told me wanted me out of her life forever. However in the past week she has contacted me with messages saying she's outside my house, when I asked why her response was, "Why not". She has done this twice now and i'm not exactly sure why. She seems to be a bit less hostile and when I asked her if she wanted to be friends again she replied, "I'm sorry but it's a no" and that her bf hates me and would never be okay with it. Has anyone else ever experienced this? Is she trying to reach out or something? This whole thing is pretty confusing :S Would really appreciate any advice :) Title: Re: BPD friend trying to reach out after NC? Post by: Want2know on March 22, 2014, 08:40:42 PM When she says she's outside your house, do you let her in?
Also, has your friendship been physical, at some point, or was there some hint of it being more than a friendship? I would say, if she has a bf, you might want to steer clear of her. If she is continuing to contact you or show up outside your house, you might want to be firm about what is acceptable for you. Title: Re: BPD friend trying to reach out after NC? Post by: Coolfry77 on March 23, 2014, 05:43:07 AM Well this is the thing, I don't get much mobile signal at my house and the first time she text me to say she was in the car park outside, I got the message 2 hours after she sent it by which time she had left. Then the second time I missed her as I was at the gym.
My friendship with her was never really physical apart from the odd hug here and there. However there were definitely hints that it could of been more than a friendship. I remember her once saying she loved me and would want to be with me however it was too soon after breaking up with her ex(who she is now back with)which i completely understood. From what she's told me before, her bf is fairly controlling so I'm wondering if he is a factor in this? I text her saying you either want me in your life or you don't and I got no reply. Thing is I still care about her despite everyone telling me to stay clear :/ |