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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Dolly rocker on March 25, 2014, 08:22:25 AM



Title: Strange calls
Post by: Dolly rocker on March 25, 2014, 08:22:25 AM
So it's been nearly a month since he last called and texted.

Then today he rang twice. I didn't answer as I want to keep NC.

Then I realised he left a voicemail. But when I listened to it, music was all I that could hear in the background.

Now I'm wondering if he called me by mistake.

Just to clarify I have no intentions to call him back or anything but I must admit that his desperation to get back to me makes me stronger!



Title: Re: Strange calls
Post by: mitchell16 on March 25, 2014, 10:36:38 AM
mine used to to do this. I suspected it was a way to get me to contact her and that why I didnt reject her cause she didnt say or ask anything. and if i called her back angry and told her once again not to be contacting me she could just claim it was an accidental call. I used to get those at very odd hours in the night. It was just be music or tv noise.


Title: Re: Strange calls
Post by: Dolly rocker on March 25, 2014, 10:51:36 AM
You're so right Mitchell!

It could be a catch. They are so clever.

Well he's Defo not getting any replies or calls from me!



Title: Re: Strange calls
Post by: Dolly rocker on March 25, 2014, 04:50:44 PM
He just called back again! Don't think it was an "accidental call"



Title: Re: Strange calls
Post by: mitchell16 on March 25, 2014, 05:16:27 PM
well if it anything like mine, it will esculate from here. when It started with mine and ignored her it just got worse and then the threating text message would come thru.


Title: Re: Strange calls
Post by: Dolly rocker on March 25, 2014, 07:29:47 PM
He used to say to me over and over: "ignoring is the worst thing you can do to me"


Title: Re: Strange calls
Post by: willy45 on March 25, 2014, 08:06:51 PM
Don't answer. Read my extraordinarly long post. There is nothing there. Same old person. Mine has been calling me and texting me randomly for over a year and half. I got my dates mixed up... . I thought it was only a year. It has been way longer. Ignore.

I was in a place where I would get a text or call or an email and I would just look at it and say: I don't want to deal with this. And I would ignore. I made the mistake of answering once. And my world collapsed. So, don't do it. Good for you for ignoring. Keep up the good work!


Title: Re: Strange calls
Post by: Dolly rocker on March 26, 2014, 03:45:17 AM
Thanks Willy45!

This morning I got a txt at 5:20 AM, asking if I was up! As if I would be at this time of the morning.

I must confess that part of me worries if he's in trouble or ill but part if me thinks he's not my responsibility anymore. And yes, I've had such a peaceful couple of months! I don't need my world collapsing again! I'm definitely stronger!