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Title: ex BPD Post by: cron65 on April 07, 2014, 12:51:55 PM I am seeing a therapist tomorrow to deal with all this BPD aftermath massacre. I am also hoping for some sort of validation from anyone. I want and need to tell my story... to have others understand what I have gone through and for others to relate to my plight.
What is a good way to approach the therapist? What can I ask her to help me get through this time. My biggest issue at the present is just full out anger at myself for being sucked into this whole situation. Title: Re: ex BPD Post by: scallops on April 07, 2014, 01:56:26 PM Dear Cron65
I don't know your story so it is hard to give help. I think when a relationship ends we are always searching for closure and need to time to heal. Your ex was BPD? Surviving a Break-up with Someone Suffering with Borderline Personality Disorder [NEW] (https://bpdfamily.com/tools/articles9.htm) Falling in Love with an Unavailable Person (https://bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a117.htm) US: "Relationship Recycling" - What is it? (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=95860.0) I want to encourage you to post more information on your break up and a bit more info on your struggles right now. Please try and rad some of the articles here. I have found that very helpful... . that might relieve your anger a bit... . realizing your ex is mentally ill and not always capable of making the right decisions may give you some comfort... . I am so sorry you are struggling right now but I hope in time you can heal... . we are here for you Title: Re: ex BPD Post by: Turkish on April 07, 2014, 03:05:18 PM I am seeing a therapist tomorrow to deal with all this BPD aftermath massacre. I am also hoping for some sort of validation from anyone. I want and need to tell my story... to have others understand what I have gone through and for others to relate to my plight. What is a good way to approach the therapist? What can I ask her to help me get through this time. My biggest issue at the present is just full out anger at myself for being sucked into this whole situation. Hello cron65, It's great that you are seeing a T. I spent months with mine, and short of anything else, it was refreshing to tell my story and give updates on what went on for many months as I detached from my uBPDx. Depending upon the T's training and experience, they may not have specific training with regard to BPD. I don't think it specifically mattered in my case, but each of us are unique. What he provided was validation that it was ok to feel as I felt, and it was ok to be angry, as it was a few months before he even sensed that from me (I tend to surpress anger). Above all, be honest if you can. It is a safe place to vent, cry, whatever you want to do. Years ago, I may have felt embarrased in doing so, but I think therapists have "seen it all" so to speak, and our situations, while painful to us, are what they are experienced in and trained to deal with. You'll do fine, cron65! Turkish |