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Well nothing has gotten better just worse. After catching my son and  BPDDIL coming into our house and reading my iPAD. By the way I have been communicating with others in similar situations. Had been deleting as soon as I could but that particular day my father's house had caught on fire. I didn't get one deleted. Funny it was not as bad as they were trying to make it out to be. But apparently just enough to get her into another rage. We contacted a lawyer who told us we could press charges. Stupid me apparently a IPAD is considered a computer. "Computer hacking".

My son who is ADHD and also a law enforcement officer has gone completely paranoid and nasty with us. Constantly thinks that we are the enemy and throws the grandkids presents back at us and bad mouths us to the kids. We are not only battling a BPDDIL but now a paranoid son. He has projected everything on to us. Everything he has accused us of our daughter in law is guilty of. I am afraid he is lost to us. Filth mouthed us on Facebook but won't defriend us. I wish he would. I know if we do it will cause another explosion. I believe the only way his relationship last is if he makes us the enemy. Then she won't rage on him. We get absolutely no family support. Very disappointing.

Hi, cpatlew,

I am sorry to hear things are worse between you and your son. It must be incredibly difficult to have him saying negative things about you. I think a lot of people would be feeling sad and even angry in your shoes. I think it is understandable that you wouldn't want to remain facebook friends under the circumstances. If you do not feel ready to end that internet connection yourself, are there other steps you can take to look after your boundaries?

I learned a lot from reading this workshop. Have you seen it yet? BOUNDARIES: Upholding our values and independence (https://bpdfamily.com/content/values-and-boundaries) What do you think?

Wishing you peace,

PF