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My 38 years old exBPDgf is dating her lover again whom she had an affair behind my back. It happened in august/september, she lied and played both of us. After I found out what happened, told me that the guy had horrible mouth odour and didn't perform well in bad so don't want to have relationship with him. We recycled a few times since and finally cut the cord in February. She is low functioning one, unemployed for over a year now, suicidial and unstable, living with her passionately hated parents, no career, absolutely no savings just unpaid taxes.  

He clearly doesn't live up to her standards but she is using him to fulfill her Maslowian needs. He was already willing to provide her shelter back in september after only seeing each other for three weeks which I think is insane. Another example of love=NEEDS for pwBPD. The replacement coming from one of the easily available orbiters. Another classic. Last time openly admitted that she can't possible be alone.

Heck, even few weeks ago she broke NC trying to bait with the "soulmate, missing how you loved me" crap just to sooth herself. I gave in and ended up dealing with her suicide threats again.

Even considering an offer from her ex husband to have sex for money on regular base. She is disgusted by him, cheated on him for 7 straigh years and still would give in.