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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: SKyDancer on April 12, 2014, 02:20:33 PM



Title: Moving day - My heart hurts bad
Post by: SKyDancer on April 12, 2014, 02:20:33 PM
Today is when the movers are scheduled to show up to move her. She seems happy and has been since she signed the lease papers. Very amicable. Very strange to me.

My heart is heavy, I am sad, very sad.

This really hurts bad.

I am struggling with myself having thoughts and images of who I "imagined" her to be. My beautiful fun and loving wife. The embellishments are taking over my thoughts.

How do you get passed this? It HURTS!


Title: Re: Moving day - My heart hurts bad
Post by: Fool for Love on April 12, 2014, 02:26:11 PM
So sorry to hear about your pain. I don't know if you get over the pain. It takes time and I can imagine your feelings being it your wife . Please keep your head up ... and the people on this board are awesome with help :)


Title: Re: Moving day - My heart hurts bad
Post by: Fool for Love on April 12, 2014, 02:27:09 PM
And I understand the struggle ... . We do think they are who we see in good times . That's a hard one to grasp ahold of.


Title: Re: Moving day - My heart hurts bad
Post by: Mutt on April 12, 2014, 02:30:33 PM
Hi SKyDancer,

This is a hard day. I remember the day, that I moved my wife and kids out. I was shell shocked. I'm sorry about what you are going through, it's so hard to deal with.

I found the strength to get through the day. The empty house, kids out, empty rooms was something else.

Do you have family members you can call? Do you just need time by yourself to process this and not be around people? I spent time by myself for a week, I recognized that I was going through a life event.

Hang in there.

- Mutt


Title: Re: Moving day - My heart hurts bad
Post by: magichat101 on April 14, 2014, 02:18:01 AM
I've been there before... . We both moved out of our apartment together a year and a half ago... . We got back together but then obviously that ended as well... The move out was the hardest most surreal part... . My advice if you can move do so!