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Title: noise Post by: cron65 on April 14, 2014, 06:57:57 AM HI everyone... . I am now at the indifferent stage re my ex BPD. I don't wish her ill will... I wish her nothing.
My question to everyone is how do you stop the noise.? HOw do I rid myself of her? ... . when I turn off the light to sleep, I am bombarded by her noise. She haunts me by ruining my sleep. HOw do I clear my head of her and her illness? I need to be free of her... . is it just a matter of time? Please help... . Title: Re: noise Post by: Mutt on April 14, 2014, 01:33:04 PM Hi cron65,
I'm not sure that I understand. What do you mean by noise and that you are getting bombarded with this noise? Title: Re: noise Post by: Tincup on April 14, 2014, 01:51:41 PM Hi Cron65,
If what you mean by noise is thoughts in your head, my answer is time. For me it has been better with time and the detachment process. I wish I had an "easy" answer for you because I hated when someone would tell me time. Title: Re: noise Post by: Lamaiel on April 14, 2014, 01:57:18 PM I feel that by noise you mean rumination and some version of racing thoughts. It is something I currently deal with in regards to my exBPD as well as in other stressful situations.
Check out this workshop on ruminations, it may be a good starting point: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=103396.0 (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=103396.0) Title: Re: noise Post by: trevjim on April 14, 2014, 02:23:23 PM Day by Day, Hour by Hour.
You gotta climb that mountain one step at a time Title: Re: noise Post by: cron65 on April 14, 2014, 02:47:56 PM Hey Mutt,
You have been a big help to me, bro. What I mean by noise is seeing her in my thoughts, dreams, etc... still thinking about the events of the relationship, the break up etc... . regretting that I contiinued in the relat. even though I always knew something was wrong with her. More mad at myself. I have so many other things going on in my life right now and she always pops up in my thoughts. I think I will seek more help... therapy etc... . I really didn't need this ___. It's ironic how we need therapy, eh? |