Title: validation Post by: cron65 on April 15, 2014, 06:56:37 AM My ex BPD is either diagnosed or undiagnosed. I really don't know... I do know that she has been in therapy and is always reading psch. books... searching... always.
My question is this... . I am contemplating whether or not I should reach out to her ex-husband and talk to him about her condition. Why? Solely for the sake of her boys. I am sure he is aware of her issues yet I don't know if he is fully aware of her illness. Does anyone have any ideas? suggestions?/ as to whether or not this is a good idea?... that is, reaching out to the ex-husband. Title: Re: validation Post by: heartandwhole on April 15, 2014, 09:49:27 AM Hi cron65,
I think generally it isn't a good idea. Since you don't know if your ex has been diagnosed by a professional, it's probably best not to speculate to the ex husband. It is very kind of you to think about the children, you obviously care about them. As you said, it is likely that the ex husband has experienced some of the behaviors that you are thinking about, and has probably come to similar conclusions. It would be different if he approached you and asked you to share your experiences, but he hasn't, so it's probably best not to involve yourself in their relationship. (Unless you have evidence of dangerous or abusive behavior toward the children) My 2ยข :) |