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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: corraline on April 18, 2014, 09:27:03 PM



Title: im still getting some contact
Post by: corraline on April 18, 2014, 09:27:03 PM
I am still receiving contact.  This time info sent thru a website with a link to info about a book on a new method on dealing with trauma. To tell u the truth that freaked me out since I am currently involved with an online program about trauma from Peter Levine.  Its probably coincidence that he sent this as he has no access to my home or computer and I am just being paranoid. Also, we talked about this kind of stuff too.   It bugs me that he still thinks he can advise me on these matters.  Especially since he sent me a voice mail very recently insisting on no contact five times.  Since then he has called again twice, showed up at my work and sent this link thingy.  I want to tell him to stop but I don't. It would get no where. Boundaries were always something he insisted on but seems to lack them himself big time.  I know boundaries are difficult for anyone at times like these.  I haven't been an angel about boundaries by any stretch during our break ups in the past.


Title: Re: im still getting some contact
Post by: free-n-clear on April 18, 2014, 10:34:01 PM
   Yep, mine still attempts to make contact occasionally, too. Usually by text message, just saying "Hi. What are you up to today?" Strangely enough, it always seems to be on my payday.   I'm sure she has it marked on a calendar, as I get paid fortnightly, and even if she doesn't attempt contact for six weeks or more, she still manages to get the day right.

   The last message was a request for me to write her a reference, as she's homeless again and trying to get accommodation. She expects me to put my name to a lie about what a stable, reliable, trustworthy, clean-living person she is. Unbelievable.


Title: Re: im still getting some contact
Post by: corraline on April 18, 2014, 10:39:08 PM
free

yikes

what do you do about it?  do you respond?


Title: Re: im still getting some contact
Post by: free-n-clear on April 18, 2014, 10:50:36 PM
  Hi, corraline. No, I don't respond to her texts, but it doesn't seem to deter her. The problem is we live in a relatively small town, so I run into her occasionally. When I do, I'm always polite, ask her how the kids are doing, etc., but avoid talking about "us". I probably should tell her that she's wasting her time and phone credit, but I thought she'd have worked that out for herself by now. Hopefully not hearing back from me about the reference will make it sink in.