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Title: Me taking all the blame get's her off my case Post by: Lion Fire on April 24, 2014, 05:56:52 AM I believe I've found the short term solution to get her off my case.
She contacted me last night by text, it started with "this isn't about blame... . " and ended up in complety blaming me for the breakdown and just about everything else that is wrong in her life... . She asked me what my condition is, she has already labelled me as BPD before :) This time I didn't defend. I have read here that being passive and taking it on the chin works to get them of our case. She asked me to admit to why I crashed the relationship and disgarded someone who loved me to my core wholeheartedly and I abused it. Of course she failed to take reponsibility and apologise for her stuff like abusive behaviour, bullying, control, extreme insults, blackmail, smearing my name, making up stories etc... I responded in brief that I was sorry for any harm I caused her, I thanked her for what she had done for me, told her she was rare and special and admitted that I was damaged, could not be in a relationship and needed time to heal.This seemed to work. I never told her that I was damaged by her behaviour, could not be in a relationship with her and needed to get away to heal myself :) She is now allowing me to get my stuff from her home earlier than was arranged, hooked me up with a contact of her's for possible work and even left a XXX at the end of her message. My plan is a 007 mission to get down to London later, collect my stuff, pay the ransom (she has demanded money that I "owe" her in exchange for my gear) and get out of Dodge really quickly. I am by no means complacent nor comfortable because I know this could all flip 180 in an instant. Wish me Luck ;-) Title: Re: me taking all the blame get's her off my case Post by: Clearmind on April 24, 2014, 09:53:31 AM What sort of contact will you have once you collect your stuff?
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