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Title: l tried SET for the first time today Post by: tristesse on May 01, 2014, 10:01:55 PM I'm happy to announce that I have been reading all of the information on this site , and watching the short films. Today I decided to try a new technique, SET, support, empathy, test... . it was amazing, my dd compromised with no argument. I was able to stop what I was doing and focus fully on her, then I told her, I get it, I understood her desire(support ) I was able to clarify why I understood it, (empathy)and finally I was able to tell her that the answer was no and why it was no,( truth )she found a compromise that worked for everyone. Hooray for our 1 st baby step.
Title: Re: l tried SET for the first time today Post by: Rapt Reader on May 01, 2014, 10:12:26 PM Wow! |iiii
Doesn't it feel good when we tippy-toe into the S.E.T. water and carefully find that it really isn't bad? The more you do it, the easier it gets, and the better your relationship will get. Amazing, no? Congratulations, bpetersen514! Title: Re: l tried SET for the first time today Post by: tristesse on May 02, 2014, 07:19:50 AM Thank You Rapt Reader.
I am still floating on clod nine this morning. I feel like I won the lottery. Title: Re: l tried SET for the first time today Post by: js friend on May 02, 2014, 12:37:09 PM Im so happy for you bpeterson514, :)
Good communication is so important with our dds/ds. It seems to unlock a key to a door that allow us to do it get through to them without all the upset of previous attempts.It definitley takes practice but is so worth it.Just look how much things have improved after your very first attempt! Looking back i sometimes shudder to think of how invalidating I must have come across to my dd sometimes Using SET has helped me not only with my dd but with other people too |iiii Title: Re: l tried SET for the first time today Post by: jellibeans on May 02, 2014, 01:56:05 PM woo hoo... . great news! |iiii
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