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I know she's been served with my complaint about S9 not being in school.  When I drop S9 off at her place in the morning, lots of times, there are cars from guys she either does horticulture classes with or works with.  This is early in the morning.  And S9 says various guys spend the night all the time.

So she's sleeping with multiple guys, and doing it in front of S9. 

I've been taking quick snap shots of the cars in the driveway when I drop S9 in the morning.  Making it like I'm taking a quick pic of S9, then immediately texting it to my mom.  Idea is to take the pic and try to document the time and date it was taken, and if uPDxw is watching, she's none the wiser as to what I'm really doing because I can just say it's a pic of S9 for my mom until we get in front of a judge.

Any other ideas on how to document she's exposing S9 to this behavior without putting S9 on the stand.

My stepkids mama had a certain revolving door as well when it came to boyfriends. It can be confusing for little ones.

We have to be careful - because sometimes this is a "values" issue when we don't agree with the other parent's behavior. We also need to be mindful of taking a 9 year old's perception as gospel when he says lots of guys are spending the night. What are you worried about when it comes to your kiddo and these guys? 

Is there a bigger picture to this - is this just one part of a case you're building against the ex?

Did you ask your ex about it? Could you have a mature conversation that what she does on her own time is none of your business, but S9 is asking questions (about all the guys) and you're not sure how to respond... . (or something along those lines)?

I'm looking at it as a supporting point in favor of my getting custody in that I can provide a more stable life than her.  She injects constant change and no consistency for S9's life.  She can live like that if she wants but I'd like to provide more consistency for S9, which will ultimately help him settle into life and address his school issues.

This may seem a factor to you but I think it would have less impact with the court than her choosing home school with poor results.  I'm not saying the variety of men won't help your case but I don't know by how much.  When I've been in court, my ex had E, D, R and perhaps others too - though not a revolving door - but no one mentioned them in court.

I guess I'm also thinking if she tries to make a stink because I'm cohabitating with my fiance, then I can at least let the court know her situation as well.  At least make her look worse than me.  I probably wouldn't bring it up unless things were getting dirty during the hearing though.

But I do absolutely agree that the overriding factor is that S9 is not being educated, and keep everything focused on that as much as we can.

Here's the big question: Is it creating a clear problem for S9? Are you hearing anything from S9 about guys being bad with him, or about a guy he liked not coming back?

If not... . probably better to stick to real issues like school.