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Our seven-year relationship officially ended 15 months ago. But breaking up with a pwBPD is subject to ambiguities that shift within a kaleidoscope.

Late this past Friday evening, she appears on my doorstep bloody and bruised. In her arms she's holding her pet guinea pig. Her estranged tweaker boyfriend had kidnapped said pig, holding it for ransom. The whereabouts of the pig, only to be disclosed when she consents to having a drink with him. Which escalated in the direction of him grabbing the steering wheel while she was driving, crashing her car, and for the coup de grace, punching her in the face--resulting in a black eye and lacerations. The abuser then runs from the vehicle, a policeman gives chase, and he is taken into custody--which simultaneously violates his conditions of release on another pending criminal matter. Presumably he will now be stuck in the detention center for some time to come.

Consequently, I take her in, offering shelter from the storm, while knowing that neither the possibility of a serious relationship exists, nor can I allow any feelings for her to transcend the level of surface desire. I cannot trust her with any deeper feelings, nor should I--for she is haphazard in both theory and application. The following night, Saturday, I have a date planned with a woman who I am beginning to feel something more for. It is a very strange experience to go out on a date when one's ex is sleeping at your residence. It feels highly disingenuous. When I see this woman again in two weeks time, and if my x is still present (which I highly doubt), it is a dilemma that I will have to resolve in a manner that makes ordered sense. 

I would have never imagined that the tribulations and abduction of a guinea pig, who despite unfavorable odds has managed to survive, would effectuate the present scenario--but in some alternative universe it appears rational. After all, the pig previously resided with me, and possesses a strange twinkle in his eyes, suggesting an intelligence that exceeds the average of his species.         

I dig your writing style.  |iiii

I do not envy your situation. My ex would always come to me in times of trouble. There is something so attractive to me about a damsel in distress. I spent years being her savior, trying desperately to heal her emotional and physical wounds. I wish you all the best in resolving your current predicament with as little suffering as possible.

That was quite and interesting and entertaining read.  First time I have heard of someone kidnapping a pig.  Goodness me! 

On a more serious note, I hope the woman you plan on seeing again never finds out that your ex has been sleeping next to you again.  That will be a very diffciult thing to explain and might scare her off.  I know I'll be scared to get involved with someone under those circumstances.  Let's also hope your ex doesn't decide to cause trouble between you and the new woman.  BTW, where is the pig sleeping?  :)

Much luck to you.

Perdita, the new woman and I aren't exclusive yet, but I agree it's problematic.

Last night, she assembled the pig's rather large open run, and placed it in the room where he used to live. Filled it with fluffy pink carefresh, and then subsequently passed out drunk, slumped over, standing up, with her head resting on the kitchen counter. Her sentience didn't last long enough to attach the water bottle and place the food in the cage, therefore I completed those acts with a bit of wire for the water bottle and a little bowl for the food. He seemed quite hungry.   

Well, sounds like your old piggies have settled in nicely. 

Dude, your writing is still amazing, and that was funny as hell to read; your choice of humor as a coping mechanism is also a good one.  Gotta admit, I couldn't do it, but your take on the randomness of a borderline and the mental and emotional gymnastics necessary to not only tolerate it but celebrate it has always been unique and refreshing.  Seems a decision regarding present females is in order, we look forward to updates, and take care of you!

Yes... . funny as hell.  If you are starting to have feelings for this new woman... . be careful.  Even if you're not "exclusive".  From the female point of view I would be extremely hesitant to get involved with someone who was still that involved with his Xgf. 

Of course I did date a guy whose ex-wife, destitute after a job loss and second divorce from a phony English Lord, was living in the Nanny quarters above his garage.  But that was just too Real Housewives good to pass up.

So do still even believe the Drama Doorstep Story?

I mean, sure, she came back.  That is what they do.

And (always) have to "have a story."

But that one.  :)o you believe it?

Just asking.

I loved reading that... . First time I've smiled in a long while.

Can't wait for the next chapter  :)

100% certified empirically true.

Great story.