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OK only just realised I should have started here, but only been a member a few days. Would be interested if anyone else here can relate to my position. Basically, I was the scapegoat that often burns themselves out trying to prove the N's wrong. I also have underlying rebellious attributes (distrust of authority). So I would work hard to get to a Managerial position, and then some N's minded member of staff or manager would steal my project or provoke or bully me, which kicks off my PTSD and ultimately the N steals my thunder. So I set up my own business and bingo - all the hard work now hits my own pocket. I'm also keen to network with other ACoRns within business, as persecuted minorities need to stick together !

I'm in mid life and have an older GC Bro who's also a Covert N and a BPD Mom.  Growing up it was like a War zone, with my BPD Mom and CN Bro having the mother of all arguments every day. They are both extremely aggressive and like kicking things off. I suffered from depression since a young child, and tried to take my life whilst still at primary school. My N Bro explained how Marylyn Monroe did it, and where to find the pills. My N Bro has rampant sibling rivalry and has done awful things to me over the years, including kicking me out of a moving car.

I would keep out of the house for as long as possible and left home as soon as able. I suffer from PTSD and have only recently realised the correct explanation for their behaviour. Prior to this, we knew it was abusive, but it was explained away with jealousy (which I provoke) or my BPD couldn't cope (because we were such bad children) etc... . etc... . Anyway it came to a head around 4 months ago when I saw my N Bro and BPD Mom use triangulation on my kids, and run my young son down prior to hitting him a couple of times. It was their insistence that my son's behaviour deserved the attacks, which trigged the whole thing. I have a lovely wife and two wonderful children. I've also been blessed with extremely loyal friends through life. I put that down to not having that at home and escaping the house. My sis by comparison I think was the "Lost child" and stayed in the home when War was waged. She has always really struggled to make friends, but then she doesn't really give - she's more a dependent. She has a good hart - but no point asking her any favours, she can never cope or it's inconvenient.

Hi HappyChappy,

Yes we definitely can support each other! :) That's what bpdfamily is all about

On a more serious note, the behavior of your mother and brother is really disturbing. I'm very sorry that they now also seem to turn against your son. How are your kids dealing with these incidents? And have you tried setting boundaries with your mother and brother to make clear that it's absolutely unacceptable to treat your son this way? I'm happy that you do have a good support network in your wife and friends. That can really help when you're dealing with these difficult kinds of family members.

Hi HappyChappy - I think what has been created on this site is exceptional.

There is plenty of     :)    |iiii  &  :light:

Sorry to hear the experiences that have brought you here, you are in good company.