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Title: Something Strange Post by: PhoenixRising15 on May 16, 2014, 01:27:51 AM Something strange is happening. It might be real actual detachment. It might just be for this moment.
It's like I am noticing more negative influences on me in the world, and they become Daisy's voice, and then I can let them go. I am seeing MORE negative, but somehow, it's not bothering me. I'm saying no in my head and replacing it with the voice and image of the loving supporters around me. It feels so good. Before, it was, what will I do if I run into HER? What will SHE say? How will SHE react? I love her. I want the best for her. And, her reactions are her own. They don't actually matter to me (in a lovingly detached sort of way). I'm struggling with words. I feel like I'm settling in to my skin. It's going to be okay. Title: Re: Something Strange Post by: arjay on May 16, 2014, 03:11:30 PM Greetings. The whole moving on thing is truly a process and not simply about the "physical" detachment. In other words, emotionally we need to move on too and that is what really takes time (or did so for me and many others).
I found myself going through a range of emotions and feelings and found it very helpful to do simple things to assist the healing process; simple walks on the beach; riding my bicycle, engaging in some type of spiritual development whether a church, spiritual group or whatever; reading self-help books and more. In other words I redirected my thoughts to anything and everything that helped ME during that period. It was time to be kind to myself; it was time to forgive myself for my negative contribution to the relationship and strive to come away with something lasting and meaningful from the disaster that was my relationship/marriage. Yes settling into our skin is a great way to look at it. It seems we all ended up (among other things) even detached from self. Re-entry does take time. Peace |