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Title: Things you wished you could have said to your BP partner but... Post by: Should I stay or... on May 22, 2014, 01:38:32 PM Starting a post that's more lighthearted than most. More tongue and cheek and for some laughs. Let's make a list of all the things you'd love to have said to your ex, so, gf, bf with BPD! All in jest!
My List so far: Were all your previous ex's alcoholics, before you married them or after... . Why did you leave? Was it something you thought I said... . I'm the love of your life, in which life? The wedding receptions was lovely too bad you bolted... . Your teeth are purple from all the wine you're drinking... . There's audio/video taping us, should I rewind and show you what really happen? Title: Re: Things you wished you could have said to your BP partner but... Post by: TheBPDSurvivor on May 22, 2014, 03:11:05 PM Nice thread "longnamer"! :D
When I first talked with My uBPDexgf, she said that she had sim cards for the all the networks and changes them once a month. red-flag I had these urge to ask her "Wow, you have so many sim cards. Are you a b___?" but never said that. When I was in the devaluation stage, I can clearly sense and see that she is cheating on me with someone else and blatantly said so many pathological lies. I then wished I would've said like "GTF outta my life you bloody hoe" but she literally sucked out all the confidence and self-esteem out of me so I never had the courage to say that to her. When she is about to paint me black, I uploaded the voice recording of our romantic conversation and the call was made from her Dad's number so I put it all into a slideshow and uploaded it to youtube as a private video and sent her the video link. She's a computer illiterate so she quickly called me back as soon as she watched the video and shouted at me and said that I'm blackmailing her. I pointed her to read the description where I wrote all the stuff happened ever since our relationship started and wrote how I lost my friends, business, self-esteem, etc... , all because of her and finally said that the video was private and can be viewed only by those who have that link and said I'll take them down now. Bam! I'm black.lol Title: Re: Things you wished you could have said to your BP partner but... Post by: Pecator on May 22, 2014, 10:28:58 PM Actually, I just posted this on another thread.
I could never actually say this, but it helps with anger and detachment. "I know I shouldn't diagnose you, but you better hope you have BPD. Otherwise you are just a mean B*tch" Title: Re: Things you wished you could have said to your BP partner but... Post by: Inside on May 25, 2014, 10:06:21 PM Hey "ShouldI... " - followed you from the intro pages and thought this sounded fun - and it was :)
What’s weird is as our ‘relationship’ progressed and I learned more of my uBPDxgf’s condition I held back less and less… but let me give some thought to what I didn’t say: Think your boys have caught it from you? Go ahead, marry someone – anyone, I dare you! Tell your therapist you’ve got BPD. So you sent your dad to an early grave... ? I’m gonna leave first! Why do I have one Ex to your ten... ? Try telling me as much as I tell you… Remember me? …I’m the one you came (here) with… Mow your own lawn; change your own oil; walk your own dog, prune your own trees… Pay me the money I loaned you and get! Does sex always require alcohol... ? Where’s the ring I gave you... ? You “Love me more” - care to bet on who leaves first? It’s OK, I told them you’ve got Borderline Personality Disorder ~ …this was just too easy Title: Re: Things you wished you could have said to your BP partner but... Post by: blissful_camper on May 25, 2014, 10:22:45 PM I said the things that I needed to say to my ex.
The thing that I wish I'd said to myself was "this man is incapable of having a healthy relationship." Blissful "can't ignore red-flag's anymore" Camper Title: Re: Things you wished you could have said to your BP partner but... Post by: Infared on May 25, 2014, 10:43:27 PM "Is it ok with you if I name your different personalities? It would help me to keep this all more orderly."
"Since you are mirroring me, if I light my farts are you going to light yours?" "Is Cindy your real name or is that something that you made up when you met me?" "Is it all right with you if I videotape you and your new captive making faces at me in the restaurant and send them to your Mom and Dad?" ":)id your incredible ability to play victim come naturally or did you pay someone to teach you method acting ?" "I already said "yes.", you don't have to control me with sex, but let's do it anyway." "Are those tears of sadness or are they just tears of manipulation?" "Hey, if you are going to be up late texting your new BF in the other room, let me know and I will prepare you some tea and a snack!" Of course all of these questions would not compute with my ex pwBPD because "I" am the problem... . But they made me laugh. Thanks for that Should I Stay! |