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Title: alienated d11 asks to live with UBPDX Post by: nona on May 23, 2014, 09:58:20 PM well, today is the day it happened.
the day that everyone besides you all here can even believe. I have a wierd feeling of relief after documenting for 3 years. UBPDX's mask is slipping. he is a family doc , and bullied my doctor for info until she turned him in to their malpractice insurance. I KNEW he would escalate the alienation as things build, and he had to get d11 to play this card now. it happens that we were turned into child protective services from a counselor i talked with. I met with the worker. I imagine the social worker contacted him today or yesterday, and today d11 "wants to live with daddy" now all the alienating emails and threats I have been saving and printing will come into play. Maybe when the social worker hears the mess on her interview the province will appoint an evaluator. Guess I am lawyer shopping. this is difficult. WOW just WOW Title: Re: alienated d11 asks to live with UBPDX Post by: Matt on May 24, 2014, 12:38:14 PM Yes, you are lawyer shopping, and under the circumstances, better late than never. :)o it quickly and well!
You need an attorney who has experience with cases like this. Ask for examples - she won't give you her clients' names, but she should be able to tell you "war stories" of similar cases she has handled, and what worked and didn't work - what she learned from them. Most attorneys don't know how to handle cases like this. Some might claim they do but they don't. Make sure you choose someone who won't be learning at your cost. Also, I would strongly suggest "Splitting" by William A. Eddy - both for you and for your attorney. A very readable guide to going through a divorce from someone who has BPD or NPD (narcissistic personality disorder). Cases like this take a different approach. You can also read a lot on Eddy's web site, www.HighConflictInstitute.com. Some strategies to consider - they helped me: * Find out about Custody Evaluators - how that process works where you live. Also consider asking the court to appoint a Guardian Ad Litem (GAL) or child advocate for D11. * Consider filing a motion to have both parents take objective psych evals, like the MMPI-2. Get the important medical information out in the open. * Consider asking for depositions, so your attorney can question the other party under oath before the trial. This is very helpful if the other party is not telling the truth. Title: Re: alienated d11 asks to live with UBPDX Post by: Boss302 on May 25, 2014, 05:59:21 PM well, today is the day it happened. the day that everyone besides you all here can even believe. I have a wierd feeling of relief after documenting for 3 years. UBPDX's mask is slipping. he is a family doc , and bullied my doctor for info until she turned him in to their malpractice insurance. I KNEW he would escalate the alienation as things build, and he had to get d11 to play this card now. it happens that we were turned into child protective services from a counselor i talked with. I met with the worker. I imagine the social worker contacted him today or yesterday, and today d11 "wants to live with daddy" now all the alienating emails and threats I have been saving and printing will come into play. Maybe when the social worker hears the mess on her interview the province will appoint an evaluator. Guess I am lawyer shopping. this is difficult. WOW just WOW How many times did my kids ask to live with BPD ex? NUMEROUS times. And then we had the "I don't want to go home with Dad" crap. It means nothing. Don't get me wrong, your feelings are important... . but believe me, the BPD ex isn't the only one playing games. Often this is the only way kids can feel "powerful" in a situation over which they have no control. Concentrate on being the best parent you can be. Eventually the kids will figure out who the stable parent is. |