Title: Moved on, and happy Post by: kevmo1967 on May 28, 2014, 02:00:57 PM Hi everyone. a few years ago i was a regular on this board. I just want to tell everyone stay the course, it does get better. in 2008 I was laid off from my job,and was filled with fear and uncertainty about the future, and I guess that really triggered my BPD (then)wife. She spiraled out of control, cheated on me, was actually hospitilized for a week in a psych ward, and lost her job, which was providing the health insurance for the both of us. It was A REALLY BAD YEAR! With no job, and no health insurance for counseling. I had to use these boards as a poor mans group therapy, as i worked through the divorce. there were the usual issues with divorcing a BPD in the divorce. She would agree to divorce terms and say sure I'll sign the papers whatever you need, then when i needed to actually write up a split of the debts evenly from her rampant emotional shopping the yelling and the anger came back, then a week later she would be all smiles and reason and ask why i hadn't finalized the papers yet?
fast forward a few years, I went back to school on a dislocated worker program, managed to muddle through the divorce papers and process on my own (couldn't afford a lawyer, both unemployed, luckily we had no children, made it so much simpler) am now employed at a job i love, and am happily married again to a woman with no mental issues. all thanks to the help and support of these boards so I just came back here to encourage everyone to stay the course, help each other out, and most importantly... . MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE, don't let your ex define you. Title: Re: Moved on, and happy Post by: Mutt on May 28, 2014, 02:39:07 PM Kevmo1967 that's a moving story. Thank you for sharing.
Title: Re: Moved on, and happy Post by: goldylamont on May 28, 2014, 03:11:48 PM that was awesome. i love it
Title: Re: Moved on, and happy Post by: heartandwhole on May 28, 2014, 03:12:15 PM Congrats kevmo,
Thanks for sharing that uplifting story! :) Really glad to hear that things have turned out so well for you. What was the most helpful in your detachment process? Title: Re: Moved on, and happy Post by: Arminius on May 28, 2014, 04:17:32 PM I needed to read that, thanks!
Title: Re: Moved on, and happy Post by: kevmo1967 on May 29, 2014, 10:58:34 AM Congrats kevmo, Thanks for sharing that uplifting story! :) Really glad to hear that things have turned out so well for you. What was the most helpful in your detachment process? the most helpful was the advice I got from this site on firm boundarys. you must set them, and be willing to disengage communication the moment those boundarys are breeched. always stay calm and rational, If the BPD person looses it,and starts to rage calmy walk away, hang up whatever and say we can discuss this when you are ready to deal calmly with this issue and this isssue only. Title: Re: Moved on, and happy Post by: Boisnix79 on May 29, 2014, 11:30:33 AM Thanks so much for your story. Gives me hope, this was a very trying time and makes you question yourself in many areas. I'm happy for you and god bless.
Title: Re: Moved on, and happy Post by: Lucky Jim on May 29, 2014, 12:44:27 PM Great stuff, Kevmo. Inspiring. Thank you for posting. LuckyJim Title: Re: Moved on, and happy Post by: Tausk on May 29, 2014, 03:05:50 PM |iiii |iiii
I just really like these thumbs up guys and am always looking for the opportunity to use them. Thanks for checking back in. |iiii Title: Re: Moved on, and happy Post by: Emelie Emelie on May 29, 2014, 03:19:27 PM Congratulations and thank you for sharing. Just what I needed to read today.
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